Pride and How it Ruins our Relationship
A relationship filled with proud partners and ego-filled lovers is almost certainly bound to fail. Everyone, irrespective of gender, has pride deeply rooted in their heart, but pride destroys relationships as it breeds anger, malice and hatred.
What is pride?
The quality or state of being proud; inordinate self-esteem; an unreasonable conceit of one's own superiority in talents, beauty, wealth, rank e.t C. Which manifests itself in lofty airs, distance, reserve and often contempt of others.
Pride in a relationship: a negative emotion… For a lot of people, an overdeveloped sense of pride only shows up in their love life. In your friendships or in your professional life, you're able to be more accommodating, but when it comes to your relationship you can be more uncompromising.
How do pride really affect our relationship?
It does in so many ways, we don't believe it would. When you are been proud or you feel too big it scares your partner towards given you so much attention so as not to offend you to avoid Yelling and Insulting him/her.
Pride starts with ego when we feel no one like us, without us our spouse is nothing and can never be something.
Irrelevant boasting discourage our from normal relationship interactions
Let's see some reason for pride:
Because you earn than your partner you feel you have the right to do what you want and pay less respect to Him/Her due to your wealth that only damage the relationship for good.
It renders your relationship sour, creates a lot of drama + jealousy.
Do you wanna know something good about pride? Yes
Pride completely comes into our lives undetected or expected.
When it eventually comes and you are been called for advice that same pride would instruct you to pay deaf ears to what the person is telling you and Pride states that it's jealousy and pride raises your Ego which raises your shoulder and you begin to back people.
Here is a little Illustration:
Soldiers do go for wars with a lot of trainings, ammunitions and equipment. In every war there is a winner or loser.
When A soldier for example wins B soldier, when next there is war A won't prepare for battle and might carry less ammunitions because they feel they are winner's .
But pride always allows the winners to be losers and vice-versa.
In our relationship, any misunderstandings between our spouse our ego tells us not to make peace or apologize because you are right or you are older. No it worsen the situation of the relationship .
EGO — RELATIONSHIP — SHATTERED
This three letters defeats this twelve letters because of pride.
Pride kills relationships. It creates a wedge between two people destroying intimacy, eroding trust, and denying peace between husband and wife. Few things are as toxic to a relationship as pride.
While no one denies the danger of pride in a relationship, few couples can identify its early warning signs. Unaware of its presence, pride grows until it is nearly unstoppable. A healthy couple will recognize the earliest appearance of pride and do everything in their power to eradicate it from themselves and their relationship.
Few signs of pride :
1: Everything is personal. Pride is an elevated view of self. When pride enters an individual, everything becomes about them. So every opposing idea or differing viewpoint isn’t seen as a natural disagreement or a difference of perspective, it is a personal attack on them. Their response to every situation is one of defensiveness because they feel assaulted even if you simply disagree over the most minor of issues.
Fault-finding. Because pride requires us to look better than others, a pride-filled person becomes an expert at finding fault in others. It’s as though they have fault-finding glasses and once they view life through that lens, problems is all they see. They actually believe finding fault is their gift and they readily point out the faults of everyone–bosses, co-workers, friends, political leaders, referees, coaches, and even their spouse.
Refusal to be influenced by their spouse. Humility opens one up to change while pride paralyzes us into our current state. Whenever an individual is unable to be positively influenced by their spouse, it’s a sign something is horribly wrong. It shows respect has been lost and the most common cause of lack of respect is pride. When we think we are better than our spouse, we stop being influenced by them.
Ignorance of the need of others. Pride doesn’t just keep us from caring for others, it prevents us from even seeing their need. Pride causes us to become so focused on self that we no longer see the hurts, struggles, and inabilities of others. Not knowing their need, a prideful person would never consider how they can assist another person in need.
Addiction to attention. Pride demands attention. Believing ourselves to be of more importance, we assume everything is and should be about us. Everything becomes about what we want, think, desire, and how situations impact us. Even if our spouse tragically breaks their leg, a prideful spouse immediately thinks about how that will inconvenience them and not their spouse.
That's all I have on pride today
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