It feels like people are mistaking their call for adventure for love. Also we need to work on our connections with people who matter to us every single day. We have to keep building on connections. When u see a new lady in your life, you feel thrilled because of the gratification you get that validates you in some way. Let's develop a mindset where you see things for what they are and not what they could be. Hooking up with some one is not live here. It's more of a bankruptcy on the guys side who had not invested in his relationship with wife and now wants to live on social welfare funds.