Being Single Is Not A Disease IV, Contributed By @Olawalium
…continued… from part 1 and part 2 and part 3
5. Accountability:
You need to date someone or marry someone with an accountability figure. Your partner should and must have someone he or she is accountable to. There are some situations that would require you to speak directly to someone your partner is accountable to just to diffuse a situation.
As humans, we should have an accountable figure. We need to have someone we can easily relate with. When you are not accountable to someone, when you have no one that can calm you down or tame you when you are angry, then there is a big problem.
When always need someone who will sound a voice of caution to us; someone who will make sense out of whatever we are going through, and someone who will tell you when you have gone off the track. When your partner or someone you are in a relationship with doesn’t have an accountability partner, then you need to start being careful because when the chips are down, who are you going to run to just to hear you out?
Your mentor or accountability partner shouldn’t be someone you won’t see, have access to or can’t relate with. It is good to learn off people via their books or materials but you need someone you can have direct access to who you can be accountable to.
A lot of people have issues in their marriage because they stopped doing the things they were doing while they were dating. We need to fix the cracks and then heal up. Being single is not a disease and you need to stop wondering if anything is wrong with you. Accept yourself, only then can someone else accept you for who you are and treat you with the respect you deserve.
…THE END…
Thank you for your time.
My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.
Dear friend @olawalium
Different people have different opinions on ways of living, some people like to live alone. I think lonely life is only suitable for some time then after that there is a need of a partner who will accompany us in happiness and suffering to fulfill our needs. Also, it is also necessary to share your feelings. Someone should That is why people have been giving importance to holy bonds like marriage since ancient times.
Regards
Posted using Partiko Android
Interesting comment and you still haven't addressed the point being raised. Of course I support unions but my point is, many people accept any kind of love because they feel not having someone for now, is a problem. There is the need to have someone, yes but because that person hasn't come doesn't mean something is wrong with the person in question. Only when you enjoy being single; loving yourself can you love another effectively.
Definitely! I was away from point. The person can give exact reference about it when he involves in single life and enjoying it.Single Life gives us enough time to analyze those things that are suitable for our future life.this concept based on reverence of others who is giving similar respect in life.
Thank you friend @olawalium
Absolutely! We should always look at the positive side of being single rather than feel sorry and sad because one is single. Being single is not a disease and with time, the status would change.
Glad to have you here, my friend,
I will call that, an intercessor, someone you can reach out to whenever your partner feel lost, that person could be friends not necessarily a parent to your partner. Just like you have said, like an Yoruba adage, 'if a dog is going crazy he will at least know his owner. There will always be somebody one's honest and play with such. Many of us pretend while still going out with one another, some will their shortcomings only for them to unleash it later after getting married. This ought not to be. What will won't take or agree with after getting married should be avoided while still single
Exactly. We need to have someone we can be accountable to, so we can be called to order. Our shortcomings will be magnified with the advent of relationship, but we all need that voice of reason.
Good to have you here.