RAPE AND WHAT MUST BE DONE AFTER

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I started a discussion in my first post about rape and the questions of the law and justice, it would be very helpful to read the first part to understand this post. You can find it here..https://steemit.com/abuse/@tolarnee/rape-and-the-law-what-next

Rape is never easy to prove except in some circumstances that are usually not as common as people think.
My point here is that the work of some lawyers would have been made easier with help from victims. Rape is a traumatic incidence but if you are going to seek for justice, there are some things that need to be done fast and on time.

First is to report immediately and don't wait to wash off before reporting, go the way you are,call for help the way you are because really your whole body is evidence, your clothes, semen on your body, everything counts. You do not know what might eventually nail the rapist so drop everything.

Second don't try to even be modest about what happened or be shy, give every detail, paint the situation such that even a child can understand. It has happened and the pain will always be there so why not just get justice for your pain.

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Third, after the part of talking to the authorities, talk to someone or people that can help you heal from the emotional and psychological trauma. Definitely, in getting to the authorities you would be taken to a doctor, they would most likely give you pills and all and treat you too but you know the pain is deeper than what the doctor can treat. Don't bottle up the pain and anger, talk to people. There are organizations that help with these kind of things and will help you heal psychologically. In Nigeria, one such organisation is Mirabel, you could check them up at http://mirabelcentre.org/ . The truth is what you bottle up now will affect you later so don't keep it in.

Fourth, really and honestly, withdrawing from everyone might seem like the best option at the time but it doesn't really help. In fact it never helps, more than ever at this period you need people. The more you withdraw, the more you give room for depression and constant replay of the incidence. You need to get past it and withdrawing would not help.

Finally and this is something that is not really compulsory but would help a whole lot and that is reaching out and helping other victims. Some others out there need help, they do not what to do, they are passing through what you passed through so why don't you come out of your shell and bless someone else.

Then I believe so much in the help of God. I believe when things are beyond you and even before they are beyond you the best help you have is God because He knows all. So just try to pray and talk to him because he can help more than any human can and make you brand new.

Rape is never a funny or easy thing but we can get through it with patience and conscious efforts to heal.