Great list, I am butting in to add to your list one-sided commitment (the abusers wants the relationship to be exclusive on the victim's behalf while they themselves cheat all the time even in the victim's face),fits of unprovoked possesiveness and jealousy, baiting the victim by trying to make them jealous all the time or constantly offending/belittling/scaring the victim,then in public trying subtly to get a rise out of you only to use your reaction as "proof" that the abuser is really the victim here and get other people to side with them, then using this event as extra ammunition to further their abuse in private. Demanding full access to your private communications while they also expect that their own will remain private.And not to mention gashlighting their victims until they break their mental health to pieces,only to use the results of the gashlighting as an excuse for even more abuse.