Why We Make Comparisons With Others - What You Need to Know About Self-Esteem!

Why is it so bad to compare yourself with others? For most people it's incredibly easy to do. If you're making comparisons with yourself or others you automatically compare yourself negatively. That's because comparing yourself with others automatically puts you down. In short, making comparisons with others only puts you up to failure.


One of my favorite quotes is from Charles Schwab: "ither you win nor lose, either depends on how you look at things." This popular quote is extremely powerful because it's a clear indication that you shouldn't stop comparing yourself with others. It also goes to show that even if you do stop comparing yourself with others, that doesn't mean you will succeed. You must keep looking at things from a different perspective. Otherwise, you won't see any difference between your life and others'.

Unfortunately, most people stop comparing their lives to those of their family members, and they start to feel worse about themselves. When comparing yourself to other people, you will always see things through a different filter. While you may see similarities in your family members, you may also see glaring differences. It's this perception vacuum that creates the conditions for failure within a person.

How can you make comparisons that are more positive and less negative? The best way to do this is to stop comparing yourself too heavily to other people. By focusing too much on others and what they do, you will shut out the very things that are holding you back from success. In other words, stop making comparisons to yourself and start making comparisons to what will make you successful.

The first step in this direction is to understand why you make downward social comparisons. Many times, we tend to compare ourselves to other people when we fail to do our due diligence on ourselves. For example, many of us fail to identify our inner strengths, and thus compare ourselves to our family and friends. If we fail to foster strong relationships within our family, we then fail to foster strong relationships with our co-workers as well. Thus, it is important that you focus on your strengths and find ways of strengthening them and nurturing your weaknesses.

Another reason why we make downward comparisons is when we feel insecure about something in our lives. When we feel insecure, we often compare our situation to other people who have also been dealt with similar problems. It makes sense that if someone else is insecure about something in their life, it is likely that we would feel insecure as well. However, when you do not feel secure in your own life, it is far more likely that you will make comparisons to other people to make yourself feel better.

Finally, another reason why we often make comparisons is when we are trying to get ourselves to move forward. When you feel stuck in a place or situation, you often compare other people to guide you to action. However, if you do not take action, it is likely that you will feel even more stuck and frustrated than before. Thus, it is essential that you stop comparing and instead start taking action towards your goal.


Now that you understand the major reasons why we make comparisons, you can use these examples to improve your self-esteem today. First, if you truly want to be successful at something, it is important that you avoid all forms of comparing yourself to other people. Next, you must identify where your negative comparison habit has grown from. Finally, you must change your thinking pattern so that you never compare yourself negatively. By stopping now, you will be well on your way to improving your self-esteem.