Voiceshares #10 - Should I Put Asunder To What God Has Joined Together???
"What God has joined together, let no man put asunder". So God says, in his book, the bible. But are there situations that tempt you to put asunder what God has joined together? I spent my life in the Secondary School and University studying seriously. I refused to fall in love.
So many boys came to me, some needed just a girlfriend, some looking for a good girl to marry. I got scared to love. This is because I have seen many hearts broken and torn into pieces in the name of love. I have seen a lady ran mad because the fiance she thought he had jilted her. While she was still trying to get people to apologize on her behalf, she was hinted one Saturday morning that her beloved fiance has having a wedding ceremony somewhere in town with another girl.
She ran to the place to see for herself, threatening to scatter the event but immediately she got there, she went mad. Tearing off her clothes and making way into the street. I saw first hand what it means to love genuinely from the heart. I saw for myself what love could do to any one if it turns sour. I got afraid. "Cant family members of the lady go and put asunder to that marriage, i asked?". I got scared to love.
As if that experience in my head that I saw wasnt enough, I watched my niece go into a relationship with a man who has no background, whatsoever. I advised my little niece to desist from such relationship but all the advice fell on deaf ears. As if i was a sorcerer, just a few months after the wedding, her home became a living hell. She wanted to come out of the marriage but I didnt want to put asunder into that marriage, I refused to allow her leave.
I encouraged her to endure. Her mum had handed her to me to care for before she died. How do i allow her fall out of marriage? Just for "flimsy excuse", I called it. I was always asking her to endure until when i visited her one day. First I found her kitchen to be empty. All the kitchen materials i bought for her at her wedding, were all gone. "Where is your gas cooker? Your steam pot? Pressure cooker? Deep fryer? How about the micro wave? Tell me where did you keep all of them?" I was very angry.
In her room, the baby hanger she got as wedding gift was gone." No baby pusher? What on earth could have happened to all these properties?" My Niece sat there playing dump. Immediately she started crying. Unfortunately, i refused to blackmailed. I asked her to answer me immediately. As i heard the reply, I almost collapsed were it not for the wall behind me. I leaned on that wall for several minutes without saying a word.
Could you believe her husband had sold all these properties? Why on earth would he do that? I asked. The wife, my niece told me he has mental problems. "Ah, this girl who has never fallen in love before, how come she fell into the wrong hands-- a mad man?" My niece revealed to me what she has been suffering in his house, even how he sold a land they both bought , just because of little arguement. "Is he crazy?" I asked. But then i remembered I just learnt he has a mental illness.
I felt helpless and scared for my sister. Just then the door opened and behold, talk of the devil and the devil is here. Pretentiously, i tried to hug and greet him but he shoved me and asked what i needed in his house. Before i could answer, facing his wife he said: "Let her leave before night falls." As l went into the bedroom to pick my bag, I saw him tying something like a chain on the bed. 'What is that for?'I asked myself. 'Could it be for my niece?' 'Does he beat her with the chain?' Well i took my bag and left.
As my little niece was seeing me off, I asked her to tell me about her sex life with her husband. Immediately, She started crying and begged me to take her home with me. Then i became miserable. Should i take my niece away from her marriage? Would i put asunder what God has joined together? Her husband has attitude and anger management problem. Besides he is mentally derailed.
If he could sell off all my niece's properties without remorse, beats her and treats her like a slave(with chains), am i sure he wouldnt ask my niece sex in public? What if he kills her one day? Taking her out of that marriage would it mean putting asunder what God has yoked together?
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I really don't understand what this post is about. Is it from someone suffering depression, or is it @rideofpassion talking about his own experience?
We need to have a little introduction before the post to explain it. :(
The only hint I have is the tag "Africa", and I know @rideofpassion is not in Africa. But no where else in the story does it mention Africa.
@intelliguy - It is a story we received and I dont believe in editing anything that story owner is trying to tell. So I have kept it same and as per my understanding it is the battle of mental thought process where the story owner is questioning God's way of leading life. The dilemma is to follow what god has conveyed or what is right.
The tag was used on insistence of story owner and I feel this is the issue many people from Africa may be facing. So I maintained that as well.
However as U said we may have to request story owners to be a bit more clear with what they are trying to tell, it is a request and not a demand :)
This is so sad! any religious obligation that makes you put up with abuse like that is ridiculous, and I do not think any religion really actually believes that. I have heard people use Bible passages like the one referred to above to support abuse like this. I would doubt those people have actually read the Bible if they think thats really God's intention for people.
If you are still in this state, or if this situation is still going on - please don't sit behind this religious guilt - seek out the police and do the right thing...
thanks for sharing -
Excellent @voiceshares
