Ridicule and Blame Hold Humanity Back And Are A Hidden Cause Of Massive Suffering. Let's Explore Non Judgement, Non Blame & Non Ridicule!
There are many habits held by humanity that are totally counter-productive and yet which many of us voluntarily continue to be involved with anyway. We are all aware of hard drug and alcohol addiction, for example - but have you ever stopped to think of how many other habits exist within us that we just call 'character' or 'normal'?
Here are a couple of our common dysfunctional habits, of many - to demonstrate why these are counterproductive:
Blame
Blame is a habitual way of adding devaluation into the process of identifying who is the cause of a particular situation. The situation may be problematic and the individual may have either acted maliciously or not - but the blame component actually does nothing to help anything at all. Even when we learn that blame is dysfunctional itself, we can still be so heavily conditioned to rely on blame and self-blame, that we don't even notice we are heavily blaming ourselves internally in a highly unloving way that causes us distress.
Reward: a false sense of increased self worth through devaluing others or other parts of self.
Judgements
Judgements are a type of thought-form that attempts to fill in the gaps in understanding with what are little more than guesses. Since society teaches us that 'good judgement' can exist, instead of teaching us that 'all judgements are errors and allowing ourselves to accept we don't know something is much better than using judgements' - we often habitually base our thoughts on little more than guesses! This would be enough of a problem, but we often then allow these judgements to take on the appearance of facts when they are not. All judgements deny something - they deny something that is felt to be true, but which we are choosing to ignore.
Reward: A false sense of thinking you understand the reality of the situation, when you don't.
Unloving Light
What all these habits share is that they are powered by what I call 'unloving light'. The word 'light' refers to understanding, as in 'enlightenment' and the word 'unloving' simply means that love is not involved in the understandings. Unloving light feels unloving and it often has a way of acting to completely negate love and even to actively attack love wherever it is found!
Habit
Habits are a rigid pattern of behavior which we use only semi-consciously. We might feel a certain way and then rather than consciously accept the feeling and find out why the feeling exists - we simply jump to a preprogrammed reaction that is designed to reach a certain different feeling that we like more. The result of this is that we gradually grow dimmer and dimmer - since consciousness is depleted in this process.
Eventually, habits cause us to become robotic, lose health and then die.
Clearly such a self destructive mechanism is unloving and, yes, unloving light is involved with habit.
Ridicule limits reality
So this is the main topic of this post. Just like the other commonly used and unloving thought processes I have highlighted here - ridicule is one that parts of us like to use for their own reasons. We might not fully acknowledge WHY we like to use them because if we admitted why we like to use them we would also need to admit that parts of us feel unloved, injured, angry and unacceptable.
Whenever we ridicule things, others and ourselves - we are involved with a lack of respect and open minded consideration of all the details and causes involved. Ridicule seeks to belittle and bypass the facts in favor of a pre-determined outcome that is aligned to a particular agenda that is not based in the absolute light of truth. In other words, ridicule seeks to deny something and hide the full truth, all while appearing to be wise and all knowing.
There are many tragic outcomes from the use of ridicule and one of the least considered is the extent to which human understanding is being limited by the use of ridicule in daily life. If someone creates a new idea for solving a problem in life, it is quite common for some people to ridicule them and say 'that's impossible'. If everyone beLIEved that those who ridicule were correct, then there's a good chance we would have total stagnation - such is the extent of ridicule in the common psyche.
Imagine if you were visited by Extra Terrestrial beings and they showed you something amazing that could help humanity - but every human you met ridiculed the idea that ETs even existed. It is quite likely that you would keep your experiences to yourself to avoid being verbally and emotionally abused by the ridiculers and their unloving light. Now consider how many other kinds of unusual experiences and realisiations people might be having on a daily basis (over 1000s of years) but which never get passed on to others due to fear of ridicule. Now imagine how much harm has been done because of this and how many problems are not being solved because of this one issue - even though the actual solutions are known to exist.
The reach of human potential is being hugely stunted by our collective failure to agree to respect each other and to accept that we do not already know and understand everything that can be understood! We need new heart, new care and new respect if we are to survive at all, let alone thrive!
Wishing you well,
Ura Soul
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I feel that a lot of ridicule is caused by peoples' cognitive dissonance. They don't want their ideas or beliefs to be wrong, so they just use vulgar, rude, belittling, and presumptuous statements to make their beliefs look stronger in their own mind.
yes, it is the lack of self acceptance i am pointing to here. to accept that you do not know everything and that some of your logic is false, is to expose your true self and that is what is most hidden by many people. many people consider their true self to be unacceptable and so an inner struggle occurs that often just results in denial and dysfunctional habits.
You are very right you had really explain the human behaviour here and how we think and your mentality and how do we behave well we really need change from the very beginning of all intelligence we are just selfish and it need to be change. And for this we need to redefine yourself to redefine education to redefine over new generation and give them a real new picture of how we should be and what should we have to become thanks for your such interesting post
You are welcome! Yes, total system evolution is necessary now on all levels. I'm not sure I will fall into the trap of blaming myself for being 'selfish' here though - I will just accept that I have made some mistakes and then learn from them. ;)
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moral relativism is a huge problem.... true self responsibility doesnt consider moral relativism (aka subjectivity). but objective truth. All data should always be analyzed from that perspective to avoid any ridicule-blame-game traps. I have several blogs about it.
every individuated being experiences a subjective reality. even attempts at objectivity are actually only shared subjectivity within the wider cosmic reality. is there a cosmic reality that is separate from us? if we are one with 'all that is', then no, there is not a separation. If there is no real separation in the absolute sense, then how can anything exist that is not subjective? It's a fun paradox to explore!
strong intention to not blame is all that is required to stop blame.
I am of opinion that when recognizing "Natural Laws" as ultimate, one begins to think objectively because one has the awareness that the latter always win in due time. That is why they are said "immutable". There is a cosmic way of thinking that is embedded in the electrical patterns of Light. To give you an example: polarity... whose mechanisms have to be grasped, or one just ends up being fragmented by the environment. Power is the abuse of polarity.
power is the ability to act. ;)
well, that is where we differ, I am a voluntaryist.
But I see what you mean... though, it is a very slippery slope. Power quickly can become coercive.
I am a voluntaryist. voluntaryism does not change the meaning of common words. 'power' literally means 'the ability to act' and nothing more. 'power OVER' is the problem form but often people mistakenly think that power itself is the problem. this error is one of the original causes of human entrapment.
this was a popular post i made on the topic:
Why POWER Does NOT Corrupt And Why Those Who Enslave Us Would Like You To Think It Does!
I dont call this power, but Force... or inner strength
Force (self-defense) and Power (aggression) are not the same. Mark Passio has a seminar on Natural Laws and explains the difference between the 2 pretty well.
I just use the meanings of the words that physics is based on since all is energy. The dictionary definitions also agree with the physics definitions. Force does not inherently imply self defence. Self defence requires power as does typing on a keyboard. 'the power to type'. You can defend self without any force at all - as in aikido, for example.
Perhaps the question of whether cosmic reality is separate from us, is in fact an ego based question, even towards the purpose of refuting separation. Individuation is an element within oneness, necessary to process, which is necessary to evolution.
Does individuation not require an objective reality? If you know that your perception is limited, does it not follow that there has to be a larger objective truth to facilitate that limited experience? And that the individuated self has response-ability to align, whenever they can, their limited perception to that truth?
Golden words. The human nature is very flawed.
Cheers from brazil!