Are we a good model for our children?

roseri (68)in #edu-venezuela • 7 years ago

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An often recurring question in the minds of parents. So let's see what we can do to set a good example for our children.

Are we a model for our children?

Family together How often does a parent ask: "Am I a role model for my children?" . And sometimes he is literally trapped by doubt, by insecurity, by fear of not being in spite of our commitment, the efforts, the energies used during the day.

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Then, thanks to many small and large details, the positive answers come to our question, which raises us, but other times the answers never seem to come and our mood suffers turbulence that makes us feel like balancers in a suspended cable.

Models are something that we, as children, were the first to look for in our lives and, despite being parents, we still follow through the observation of our own parents or people who for us represent an important reference in life everyday

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Let us take some examples of normal daily life, in which I invite you to stop and understand if we really represent a good model, setting a good example.

Let's start with our behavior towards others:

how many times, talking with our partner, do we label, are they easily given adjectives and / or worse nicknames to strangers, marking and highlighting character defects, aesthetics, etc.?

Often, adults do not realize that our conversation is always under the scrutiny and attention of the little ones, who, silently or loudly, listen to us.

Taking as models, they repeat our own behavior: then do not complain if your son or daughter delights to criticize the rest of the world, creating funny cartoons or making friends, classmates or strangers easily, because it is a base 'is in fact in the family .

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Another example, you are surprised at how unfair your children are at the table, do you eat fast, are inattentive and with your head somewhere else? Try to stop for a moment and observe yourself, how do you behave at the table ? What model do you send? Are you present, active, ready to communicate or away, with the television on, speaking for you or with your nose trapped in the newspaper? Meditate ...!

Fights, arguments, long faces are part of the family atmosphere too often? Here is that the weather pours in Dad with son on his shoulders somehow in his children who, to show their discomfort and tell them that the model presented to them is not particularly suitable, they will begin to be capricious, whining, always on the move, restless, agitated, etc.

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Then it will be the case to avoid arguing in front of them and instead show the ability to solve problems in a mature way, but above all calm, without frantic discussions that are not a good example.

Being a father is not easy, given that we were the first to learn it in school, but we are children of parents who have somehow left us a legacy of models that are more or less fair and shared, a past that each of us carries within, more or less consciously and consciously.

The past of each of us, the models we were the first to have, however, can actually be reviewed, reorganized and corrected where necessary.

Work on yourself, do introspection, try to get to know yourself as much as possible, observe yourself "from the outside." It is very useful and very helpful in the work of parents, in which one knows that each day should be able to lend a hand, know how to listen patiently, provide security, protection, but also the possibility of growing up Father and son alone, using your own strength and learn from the experience of everyday life.

The model is something that must provide constant security, but it is also capable of living through time, accepting any change, inevitable growth and personal defeats, disappointments, and for this it must be able to adapt and demonstrate maturity.