How idealism turns you into a hate person !!

As soon as you read the word “idealism”, a typical image that integrates the elements in your mind comes to mind, everything is correct and well, everything is under control, but in reality this image is not real at all, there is a hateful and hateful face of idealism, let me know you today.

In my childhood and in the school period in particular, I got to know the meaning of competition for the first time, competition in obtaining the highest score, regardless of whether I understood my lessons well or not, and regardless of my level of intelligence, my circumstances and the environment in which I live, the important thing here is to get the first position Without taking into account the rest of the circumstances, or even taking them into account ..

Then it developed into a competition to obtain the largest number of friends, and drew the attention of teachers and get their attention and love, to be the ideal student, the same situation I lived in the house, I have to be the ideal daughter and excel over my brothers, and get the share from the largest from the heart of my mother and father .

At that time, I was not aware of enough awareness of what I do, but what motivated me was my desire to reach the image of the ideal girl. In spite of this, I was satisfied only with perfection, ideally in every aspect of my life, at work, in my social relationships, in my relationship with myself, and therefore I have to control everything, I decided that I would not allow a single thread to slip through my hand, I should hold All things are controlled and fully controlled, so that I can reach the perfect image, and m N here he started to go mad ..

In the beginning, I thought that there was a problem that lay in my personality and my thoughts, and I looked for a solution to the matter, a solution that saves me from the constant feeling of anxiety and tension, skin of the self, burning, and psychological pain that I feel about everything in my life, with or without reason, and during my reading and research I discovered that Plagued by what is known as the obsessive mind of perfection and idealism, this mind works according to a mechanism that is complicated and extremely violent, to you some of its laws:

There is only black and white, there are no other colors, success and failure, true and false, there is no middle ground.
If you do not reach an excellent and ideal result, this means that you have failed, it does not matter how much effort you made on your way to your goal, it does not matter that some emergency conditions occur, all of these things are a mind with a manic perfection that does not take them into account, but casts a wall width.
Life is a continuous race, everything that happens is competition and you have to achieve first place in it, and if it does not happen then you are pure failure, you are not fit for anything!

• There is no need to try anything in order not to fail, even if - you spend your life in complete paralysis!
  Pain, psychological burning, remorse, and self-flagellation, daily feelings that you must cope with and get used to!
• If idealism = 100%, failure = 99%!
  • You always have to look great, one uncoordinated thing will prompt others to alienate you, it'll refer you to a zombie or maybe even make you a fool!
  • If someone violates your expectations even once, you have to get rid of him forever because he simply went out of the circle of idealism and his image was distorted and ended up!
  • If your job is inappropriate, your project you are working on is failing, or your marriage is poisoned, continue until the perfect image is not shaken!
    

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