You Cant Change What You Refuse to Change

We can't change what we refuse to face. If you refuse to acknowledge that you have a problem, then it cannot be helped. However, there is always something you can do to improve things if you know where to look.


Firstly, understand that it takes two hands to clap and you might need to take this advice literally. The best thing you can do about this is to work on your attitude. I don't mean to belittle the efforts of someone who wants to change - quite the opposite in fact. You really need to be determined. It is going to take time but this is a long-term process.

When I say change - it means small positive steps. Do not try to force yourself into massive action. There will be temptations to want to give into the temptation and this is where many quit before they have had a chance to reach their goal. If you're really committed, then you can make small changes and this will go a long way. Remember that your decision to not give up anything about your weight loss goal was based on your own beliefs and thinking. If this is the case, then why are you still struggling?

You may also want to take some time out. If you feel like you are just beating yourself up about something, then stop and reflect for a while. Think about why you are resisting the change and what it is that is keeping you in this position. Is it because of the fear of the unknown? Or is it something to do with who you are as a person?

Perhaps you have tried many diets and exercise programs only to find that none of them work for you. Does this mean that you are cursed? Well, maybe not. What you need to remember is that you have the power within you to change things in your life. You can even get back on track with your weight if you are willing to try harder.

You are the one who controls what you think. So, when you resist, change or resist trying then you are saying that things will always be the way they are. You're not going to like it when you're older and you start to face the consequences of what you have done. But, that's going to be one of the hardest parts of life; not facing up to the consequences and accepting them.

The truth is that no matter how much you want something, sometimes you just don't have the power to change what you don't want. Accept that change doesn't come easy. It is hard work. And, at times, you might feel like it is impossible. But, if you can truly and wholeheartedly accept that you can't change the way you want to live then you will be able to finally change the way you think about the things in your life.

You cant change what you refuse to change. So, just hang in there, and keep working toward your goals. Take baby steps. Change what you don't want. And, accept that most of the time, that you will have to make adjustments and compromises along the way. But, that is also true when you do change what you do want.

There are too many lives out there that don't have to change for anyone. They will get up every day and continue to do what they want to do. That is not change. That is clinging to the status quo. And, there is nothing wrong with that.

What is wrong is refusing to do what you need to do in order to move forward. People who are stuck in the same place day in and day out are boring. And, if you are unwilling to do what it takes in order to improve yourself and meet your goals, then who is left to change? Until you accept that you can't have the life you want until you change who you are, you won't be able to.


Yes, you can. Yes, you can change what you refuse to change. And, yes, change is a good thing. And, no, you cannot have the life you want until you change who you are.