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Misunderstanding often arises due to the fact that we come up with a meaning to the words of the interlocutor, which he did not mean at all. In order not to distort the opponent's opinion and not be offended because of this, do not look for complex overtones.
For example...

Decrease speed

You and the man have an emotional discussion of the question, and he sharply says: "Calm down!" Most women perceive this as: "You behave yourself is not adequate!" Just one word, pronounced in the wrong tone or in the wrong place, can start a scandal. And the man is just tired of figuring out something and briefly, but clearly calls you to slow down and take care of your nerves.

Am I a bore?

Discussing the actual issue for you in a conversation with a colleague or friend, you suddenly hear: "You think too much about it." Your head echoes: "He thinks I'm a bore." The question of mutual friendship and support rises abruptly! In fact, the opponent expresses his opinion, giving advice to calm down and let go of the situation.

Do not be a weakling

You decided to share your sore with a friend or wife, and in response you hear: "You take everything to heart." But when you are depressed, you can hear: "You are behaving like a weakling." Do not look for enemies where they do not exist. Words of support and concern are not a sign of weakness, but proof of sincere feelings.

Support, not pity

You are very depressed, and my mother supports you with the words: "You can do it, you just need to." Perhaps you are not so aware of support, and the head spinning: "Take yourself in hand at last!" The fact that your loved ones believe in you and do not let them relax does not mean that they do not love you and do not sympathize with you. And pity hardly comes to anyone's benefit.

Emotions - under control

"Honey, I'm meeting guys this evening, we'll sit in a bar, do not be bored" - a topic familiar, perhaps to every woman. Such a turn was clearly not part of your plans, and the "translation" of what was said quickly creeps in thought: "I have another". Do not roll up the scandal, building suspicion on pure speculation. As they say, do not wake your head while it's quiet. Learn to control your emotions, not your partner.

Need a second attempt

You strongly like a guy or a girl, you decided to start a conversation, but in response you hear: "Let's talk another time." This blow to your self-esteem sounds like this: "I have affairs more interesting than you". Perhaps she (he) really has urgent business, and maybe the topic of your conversation is not interesting. In any case, you are not denied communication, and this is an excuse not to engage in samoyedstvom. Think about how to surprise a person you like, and then try again later.

Attention to self-esteem

"Forgive my love, today will not meet." Let's go tomorrow? " At first glance, the usual phrase, but she can mentally turn into "I have fallen out of love with you." And, if such a usual situation causes a flurry of negative emotions in you, it may be worth working on yourself and your self-esteem. On the one hand, this is an indicator of "good egoism, and on the other - lack of self-confidence and a partner.

Communicate live

In a short SMS-correspondence you receive a message - "It is clear." Without hesitation, you interpret: "You have exhausted me, there is no desire to communicate". The conclusion can be made one: more communicate live, then the options for guessing the phrases and guessing the meaning of the smiles you will not arise.

Thank you for attention!

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