WHY DO YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED?

Why? Why? Why? Do you really know the reason you propose to that person? Are you sure you know what you are putting yourself into? Are you sure you are ready for it? Are you sure you are matured enough to handle that your partner? These are some of the question individual need to ask and answer before even thinking about marriage.

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Now people get married for all kind of reasons. For example, reason like;

*AGE
From the part of the world where I come from, age is one the reason why some people get into marriage. It is expected of you to have gotten married at a particular age, and if you are not then there is a particular kind of pressure that comes from the people around you.

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Therefore, the fact that you are not married at that age come with its own psychological and societal effect. Which is not always appealing to the person in question, and as such the individual desires to get married by all means.

*LOVE
This is the most common reason why people get married, like we are all made to believe. People get married because they are in love or they feel they in love with another person (Eros kind of love).

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The next thing is to get married to that person since they are already in love. But the question is ARE THEY ACTUALLY IN LOVE or lust? If it is love, is that enough reason for them to get married. Then why is the divorce rate increasing in most marriages all over the world? Food for thought I presumed.

May be people are not getting married for the right reasons?

*CHILDREN
This is common in the part of the world that I come from. People there believes that they need to get married so that they can have children that will continue their legacy(dynasty), and some will even prefer one gender than the other.

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It is believe that when you die without having a child you can call your own, then you have not fulfilled your assignment on earth i.e. you have only lived a wasted life. But in some part of the world is not like that.

*LONELINESS
I am living a lonely life and I think I need someone in my life so that I won’t be feeling lonely anymore. That is what I heard someone said. But can marriage solve the issue of loneliness? This question will bring about different responses from different individuals base on how they view it. You will have some saying “YES” while others are saying “NO”. Loneliness is another reason.

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*TRADITION (Cultural stigma)
Imagine this; some actually get married because everybody is getting married. Is like just following the crowd and doing whatever they are doing. Getting married is not really own decision, but just following the norms and practices by people around.

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*FINANCIAL SECURITY
Some want to get married because they believe that is when their financial issues will be solved. Like a lady seeking for a rich guy to get married too or a guy looking for a Senators daughter to marry thinking that will remove him from poverty.

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Such individual are not going into marriage because of the bliss that comes with it but for their own selfish purpose (greed). Note that such marriage won’t last. Romance without finance leads to annoyance.

*ADDICTION TO SEX
Some people get married because they are sexually addicted. They cannot do without having sex in a day. In fact some even cannot survive without having sex at least three to four times in a day. Such people are sex addict, and most times hide under the lies of not wanting to be promiscuous; therefore, getting married is the next line of action.

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We have this kind people from both gender (i.e. male or female). The aftermath of such union most times is not always good because after the sex and romance, their eyes now become open to other responsibilities and pressures that come with getting married.

Though there are so many more other reasons like family and peer pressure, religious beliefs, physical attractiveness, intense emotional feelings, immateriality etc. and all these reasons are not wrong neither are they right. It just depends on the individual and his or her motive.

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But in these aforementioned reasons, any person(s) going into a marriage union should be conscious of what is involving him or herself into. There is more to marriage than all this above mentioned, though the ones mentioned cannot be push aside.

Now, this is my conclusion on this topic, before you can take decisions that involve marriage you need to search within yourself to discover who you are as a person, what your personality is and what is your purpose and plan for the future are?
Answering some of this question requires someone with a matured mind and good thinking.

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From where I come from, marriage decision is a lifetime decision or should I say an institution that you don’t graduate from.

What you need to look out for in man (in this context I mean both gender) is not a good man but a faithful one with purpose, because PURPOSE IS MORE POWERFUL THAN PASSION.

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PLEASE KNOW WHY YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TO THAT PERSON, it’s never too late to continue or to stop.

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