Inner Peace.
Last year, on my way to work on Easter Friday, the car I was in, almost hit one lady, and the response from the lady brought some understanding to my head. She blotted ‘Ti o ba gba mi, wa se oriburuku laaro yii’ (If you hit me, you will have ill luck this morning).
I was about to condemn her, but this understanding came to me and that is, she was expressing her inner anger. What she’s feeling at that time, with whatever it is that is going on in her head, made her lash out. Not like she’s going to do anything IF she was hit, because the yoruba’s (a tribe in NIGERIA), used to say ‘eniti moto ba gba, ko le mu number’ (the person who gets hit by a car can’t be in the right frame of mind to pick out the plate number). We express our inner war with the way we lash out, that’s what we call transferred aggression sometimes. Not like that’s who those people are, they just revealed to you the inner battles, (a fraction of it), that they are contending with, a fraction of what they are capable of, and their actions and we can do well to understand them, to not judge them, and help them if possible.
What i did, is who i am. What i did, that's not who i will become.
We all have different ways at which we deal with situations. Others, often times, calmly, some harshly, some with curses and some won't even utter a word. Whatever approach we choose to face with it, know this, it reveals a personality, maybe a fraction (if not entirely) of who you are, who you can be, and of the inner battles you are currently facing. Know this, you still have control over it, so try to maintain that inner peace. I never said it’s easy, it’s always a struggle to remain calm in this insane world, but let your inner peace conquer, and you will marvel at how positive your life will turn out, and how in your own little way, you will change your life, then change the world.
“He who wants to change the world, must first change himself”. - Anonymous.
You are what you say you are, you are who you show people you are and you are capable of being positive. You are also capable of maintaining that inner peace.
So, enjoy inner peace, watch things happen. Peace!
Thank you for reading.
Still me,
Olawalium; (Love's chemical content in human form). Take a dose today: doctor's order.
So true. From experience, when people lash out at the slightest provocation or grow cold, it's an indication of something more.
The truth is, in the face of any provocation there is a little window between the provocation (stimulus) and our response.
Many think they aren't in charge once they are provoked, but that isn't the case.
You can decide within that slight window of decision making to walk away or do anything just to give peace a chance and you can decide to hit back hard.
Good post there @olawalium
I totally love this comment. Thanks a lot for this.
Thank you for this beautiful piece.. The fact remains that we react differently even if we are subjected to the same condition. Our state of mind has a lots to do with this
Exactly. Thanks a lot for this bro.
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Wow! Thanks brother. On it.
I concur
😊😊😊 thanks bro
Well said words boss
Thanks brother.
A thin thick line exist between stimuli and response which is choice. Sadly most person never make use of this, but rather give themselves in..
Exactly!. There is always that tiny window opening. Thanks for this.