Are You Feeling Used?

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“Most men do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply”. - Stephen R. Covey

“The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive”. - Anonymous.

Most of the time we feel used. We get so used to some people, and at one point in time, they pull the plug and just drift away. It’s really more painful when it was so obvious that they only came to you when they were at their worst, and God used you to help calm their fears, till they saw the light and when they did, they just treated you like you never existed, till maybe they need you again; that’s human nature. Only few people stick around you when you have nothing to offer…very few…tiny few…

So many people are broken, they need someone to talk to or be there for them, and that’s where other people come in. I always try to be there for people, and when I wasn’t this wise, I do feel sad and broken, when after they’ve been comforted and now happy, they don’t even keep in touch. I’ve done few match making coversface, been there through the worst people could ever be, but you see them steering in another direction when all is well. Now I know better, you should too. We humans, we are just an instrument to our fellow humans. Don’t lord it over them, by thinking because you were there for them, they would be there for you, ot should be there for you. It doesn't work that way. You don't have to be their lord. You were only an instrument. Trust me, it doesn’t have to be them, God will always send another, and you won’t be alone, but if you feel alone, look around you, someone is secretly there, reaching out, to be there for you. Don’t overlook them, because no one can make it out here all alone, without God’s help and sometimes through our fellow humans.

So, when they "ditch" you after all you’ve done as a friend, just let go. Know your mission to help them is done and never wish they would slide into a bad state so they can need you again, that would be like a wasted effort from your part, because it’s not easy being there for someone, carrying someone else’s burden and still being strong for them. That would turn your efforts to "failure", and render it void. Always learn to move on to another person who needs your help and that’s what I’ve learned. I don’t get angry about it, you shouldn't too.

I actually feel I’m a tonic to ease pain, I’m an instrument to give self belief, and make people understand few things. Yes, it's all about your mindset and what motivates you. I hate seeing people hurt, it breaks me to feel helpless and powerless to an ailing heart, and I don’t mind if they take advantage of that, I just know I have a mission; to make people happy and better off than they were before i met them, and it doesn’t always have to be about giving money, there are many things you can give.

So, dear friends, no one has the power to hurt you except you allow it and try not to feel used, because who wouldn't want to pluck from a tree that bear fruits? When was the last time you watered the tree you love plucking from? Exactly. We are all users hahaha. If they stick around, all the better, if they don’t, feel satisfied you’ve taken them to a level, through God’s help, where they don’t have to need you anymore, and that’s a success.

“Give a man a fish, he eats for a day. Teach a man to fish, he eats for a lifetime, enlighten him further, he will own a chain of sea food restaurants” - Chinese Proverb.

The above quote, that’s success. Always know it’s a success when they don’t come back, it shows you have done a good job, and appreciate it too, when they just pop in once in a while, to say hey or even if they don’t.
Like I said earlier, I don’t like seeing people hurt or seeing another human treating another in a bad way. I like putting myself in other people’s shoes to feel how they are hurting, so I can know how to help. I’m here to help.

My name is Olawalium, how can i help you today?

Thank you for reading.

Still me,

Olawalium; (Love's chemical content in human form). Take a dose today: doctor's order.