"I am in love with my best friend but she says she doesn't love me. What can I do?"

Hi Nomad-magus,

Got a humongous problem here. I am in love with my best friend. We have been friends for the past 10 years. We studied in the same college and got very close. I then made the mistake of falling in love with her and even proposed to her but she declined. We stayed good friends. Then she fell in love with another guy who is a total jerk. The problem is that I can’t forget her. Moreover, she is my neighbor so I see her every day. Please don’t tell me there is a lot of fish in the sea because many a girl came into my life but I can’t forget her. HELP!

XYZ

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XYZ

I will never tell you there are many fish in the sea because there aren’t! As far as you are concerned, the specific girl whom you can’t forget is the whole world for you and other girls do not really exist at all. This state of being is natural and acceptable. It means that you are a sensitive soul who is focused on love. You should thank and bless yourself for being this unique human being who is able to love and feel from deep within and who loves with all that you have - mind, body, and spirit. You are on your way towards TrueLove, without a doubt, and your road will take you there as long as you remain balanced.

What do I mean by that?

The path to TrueLove requires you to become independent and sovereign in your own life. That means that you need to work on yourself to regain your balance until you are no longer attached to another human being or another mechanism that draws energy from you. Your current situation is one where you think of the girl all the time, your mind is busy imagining and fantasizing about her, your body is constantly tense because of her proximity and your spirit is confined to a box. This situation impedes your higher, grander forces in coming to help you break out of those figurative chains.

TrueLove can only happen when two people exist at the same level of awareness. If the girl declined your love-offer then you couldn’t convince her to love you or be with you however difficult it is for you to not be with her. Moreover, you mustn’t put your life on hold in anticipation of her opinion changing. Remember – if someone that you love does not return your love release them and know that either they will come back to you when they are much more ready and loving, or a new person will enter your life whose love will be grander.

The fact that she is dating another individual is just a message for you to carry on with your own life; to gather all your powers to clear the energy field around you so a new type of love can come in. That new love will be much much more suitable for you and you will be more in love than you are now. As much as this is difficult for you to believe right now, trust it because it will be so. If you only allow it to happen.

It is your responsibility to make your life go forward. I will give you a few practical tools and suggestions that will help you get free should you choose to follow their wisdom:

• in order to truly release the girl and so free your blockages you must not think of her at all! The fact that she lives near you might make it more difficult so you had better see it as a challenge for you to practice mental self-discipline.

• Explain to her that your wish is to release her and free yourself from those feelings of love and therefore you need to quit seeing her for a while.

• Then maintain your discipline. Don’t call her, don’t go to see her, avoid spending time with her and most of all – stop thinking about her altogether! Once you find yourself thinking about her - STOP! Distract your mind with other things, focus on your work, your daily routine, your hobbies – whatever comes to you as long as you keep your mind busy doing other things. This is an important step because you need to untie all the little mental strings that connect you to her in this limiting way.

• In time – give it several weeks or months – you will find the disconnecting easier to do. You will feel lighter and happier and then you will be ready for a new love to come in. And she will!

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Perhaps you would have wanted to know about your future with the girl, or maybe even receive a spell or a magic trick to “make” her fall in love with you. However, such “solutions” would only serve as a temporary remedy and are not based on TrueLove. The experience that you are going through will make you stronger and bring you closer to yourself in moving towards full sovereignty over your life. That is the ultimate purpose of the soul.

Allow TrueLove to be Now!