From a slave to a master chapter # 59 - The force of love and its all-encompassing expressions
A Memoir
I will take now one step forward to examine the close relation between TrueLove and full conscious life that is celebrated from moment to moment.
Love is not mysterious as it may often seem to be. Being confusing and unachievable once a man has encountered it, led numerous writers, scholars, and artists to attempt to term the phrase “love” in as much realistic and tangible terms as our mind could possibly grasp.
More than once I have said that the kingdom of love operates by set, fixed rules, and guidelines like any physical system. What makes that kingdom enigmatic and puzzling for many humans, laymen and professionals alike is the lack of knowledge regarding those rules. There were times in the history of man when we didn’t know how aviation works but once we discovered the rules of the flight we could even mimic the winged creatures and build machines that flew faster and longer than them. Similarly, it is high time we removed the curtain and unwrapped the formulas that operate our love life. While doing so we will realize that those rules have for eons been accessible for humankind and only our eyes failed to recognize that.
Love is a natural phenomenon.
True, it is not rain or an earthquake, though sometimes it has similar effects, and its perimeters are wider than any other manifestation of nature. Like its physical peers, Love is a phenomenon that can be observed and felt but unlike any other physical process, love does not depend on any circumstances. It exists; full stop!
Take for instance this article you are reading now. You look at its words, at the images, you read the paragraphs and whether you know it or not - Love exists in the article. It is safe to assume that you are not in love with the article and yet that only means that so far your terms about love have been too limited, for love does reside in the post too.
The “falling in love” feeling is one specific part of Love.
The feelings of affection, caring and love that we feel towards a member of our family, a dear friend or a romantic spouse are also part of the ensemble called “the natural phenomenon – Love”. This very specific type of love that humans feel towards each other, towards their pets, towards places and sceneries, does not have exclusive ownership over “The Love”. The rules direct the way in which love would operate and change within our system of reality. Indeed, love does frequently change in its scope, in its ways of expressions and practically in every parameter that comprises it. It is easy to equate Love with the blowing wind that passes through the world. Sometimes it’s strong and sometimes weak, at times cold and at other times hot. When it passes near us we can feel it only if we do not hide in our homes protected by thick walls and doubled layered glass. Like love, if we choose to be excluded from the world, to refrain from taking part in it, we would only be able to see the wind’s effects on other people and not on ourselves.
Love beyond
Many people, too many, anthropomorphize love with human characters that the most salient of them all are judgment and preference. We conceptualize love to be some kind of super force that exists “up there” and monitors our behavior. If we were good enough, well behaved, nice, sweet and so on, then that super force would grant us his graces and would make our life richer, prettier, and most important more loving. When Love does not show in our life we pray to that super force - sometimes through other humans whom we perceive to be the emissaries of that super force – and beg that the merciful force would find us worthy for receiving his grace. We hope that our pleas (or vows) would convince the super-force to shower us with some love as little as it may be. Notwithstanding, although such an approach to love, as exercised by many humans on earth nowadays, could be conceived as soothing and romantic it is far from what really happens and what Love really Is.
The natural force that we title “Love” can be measured and quantified like any other physical force such as gravity, the electromagnetic force, etc. Just as contemporary students study about astronomy or history, in the future a prominent part of science classes will be dedicated to the discipline called “the nature of love”. Students will learn how to operate that force and how to use its enormous powers in a balanced way for the betterment of the human race and nature in general. The sooner we soberly recognize the true features of this force, and the sooner we shed any guise that twists it, the easier it would be for us to use that force to our advantage.
The "bad" news
Hence, firstly we must accept the fact that love does not watch us and judges our actions for better or for worse. Love, as a force, does not care that we are lonely, sad and crying and no angel will ever be sent from the “divine supreme realms” to save us. Any image of a winged angel that you may encounter in your life is merely an aid that was sent by you to help the conscious self that you are aware of today. No Messiah will ever come to you simply because you are your own savior no matter how startling that fact may seem to you. The true meaning of the True parable - “God, the force of Love, helps those who help themselves” – is that once you make the choice and begin your personal journey (as explained in the previous posts) you automatically put the force of love into motion and pull it to serve you.
The Agenda of Love
This force of love has only one purpose – to express itself. Its goal is not judgmental, that is Love does not search for the holiest people and the most worthy to manifest solely through them but evince itself through a continuous flow in and out of the world of matter and other various dimensions. During its loitering, the force penetrates the physical reality and shows itself in everything – alive, inanimate and vegetative. In that manner love is behind the growth and decay of the lemon tree in your garden; love is the broken stone at your doorstep; love is the cat’s yowling for food and your grandson’s smile in the picture that you hold in your wallet. Wherever you look, you find the force of love.
We were used to judging love as a good thing. And so, anything that loves is good for us and any other thing that alienates us, hates us or picks on us, is a bad thing. Therefore, our life swings between the two sides of the pendulum, good and bad, love and hate. When our spouse got upset over something we did and yelled at us we immediately judged his behavior as bad, as unloving! But, if we yelled at our seven years old child who had jumped into a tumultuous road no one would characterize our behavior as “bad and unloving”. Our behavior was judged as life-saving, bearing a good cause and therefore loving. Similarly, can our spouse who worries about our physical condition and so comments on our excess of weight and our bulky and aesthetic figure be considered a loving partner? Some would say that a loving mate must fully accept us the way we are.
Who is right then? Where does the truth lie?
The solution can be found in changing our beliefs and perspectives. If we perceive Love as standing on one end of the scale, belonging to one side of the duality and trying to balance the evil, the hatred, the jealousy etc, we will never be able to bypass the confusion.
Love is a force of nature that stands beyond any conflict, disagreement or relativity. It cannot be defined as good or bad because it simply doesn’t know, in its term, such meanings. Love is both good and bad; both bring people together and separates them. Divorce, for instance, is neither good nor bad and only the labels that people put on it give it such meanings. From the perspective of the force of love, any divorce is an appropriate way through which the force of love comes to expression under certain circumstances.
If so, then why does it seem that in some people’s lives this force of Love clearly and abundantly manifests while others rarely encounter Love in their lives? Moreover, does such a question make sense at all considering the non-dualistic nature of Love as describes above?
The answer is once more, in the eye of the beholder. I will say it again - the force of Love manifests itself all the time in each and every man and woman’s personal and global life; all the time and to everybody! Whether you are a homeless young girl or a lonely old man or a downtrodden teen-ager boy who now experiences his first painful break-up – the force of Love is omnipresent without exception. Only our judging eyes - what is right and what isn’t – cause us to feel that sometimes love is missing from our life.
Take, for example, a divorced thirty years old woman who has just found out that her boyfriend has been cheating on her for the past months. Facing that fact she might cry out loud: “Oh, why can I not be loved properly? Why has love forsaken me?!” but such desperate call misses the fact that it was the force of love in the first place that created the cheating scenario.
Looking beyond time and space Love could foresee that a better man, a TrueLover, is waiting for that woman and that her current relationship impeded such meeting. Therefore, the force of love, using its infinite wisdom and unimaginable creative powers, built the only path that – so it knew – would cause the woman to leave her boyfriend!
The cheating boyfriend, for his own reasons, is also visited by the force of love that separates him from his girlfriend. Love can effortlessly and harmoniously orchestrate the events to best fit our desires and dreams.
If only we allow our vision to spread out.
We hold onto our ideas, perceived ideals and self identity - sometimes so tightly, in ways that might look like certain conviction, or images / material things that represent "who I am".
So tightly, (or comfortably?) that disruption of some kind is attracted like the polar opposite side of another magnet to come barreling in to break up the knot.
That does not describe every unexpected or unwanted course of events but this is what came to mind after reading this. Unfortunately, people do not always know how to / or than they do not have to.... now identify themselves with the other end of polarity, or the destruction experienced and it's aftermath, which might largely be forming to fit the mold that a person has created and sustains with their own energy.
Holding on loosely is a difficult concept for many of us I think and that might be the reason behind alot of suffering.
Indeed.
From what I have seen in people, it's the X factor. Meaning, they are afraid of losing their identity. I can understand that. For, a middle-aged wo/man, being told repeatedly that they could change their life if only they changed their perspective, a bit, still refuse to.
So, they do know what to do (they are being told by many, including you and me), yet they fear the consequences.
I am thinking now to myself, reading your comment and writing my reply, that I should emphasize more that on the path to Realization one does not negate the human personality or destroys it. They only allow broader consciousness to come in, to be next to the human. The human experiences, the master collects wisdom, in a feast of life.
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