What marriage is not

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In a fast paced world with everything moving to digital, it's still a surprise that a lot of people have not upgraded their fantasies to match the realities of life. It's a case of the cart before the horse.
What do you expect with pressures of "I want to carry my grandchildren" from unlearned elderly parents who were probably bred and groomed in the 15th Century or lies and deceit from our brothers and sisters on social media who makes marriage appear to be a bed of roses?

Yes I'm talking about Marriage and what it is not. Marriage is a whole lot of things contrary to popular beliefs. The earlier the truth is told, the better we prepare our minds and narrow our expectations to our preparedness.

Marriage is not one of life's accomplishments. It is not settling down. It is work. The quality of your singleness is what you carry into marriage. If you were never happy, joyful and fun to be with as a single person, marriage will not offer you these. It is who and what you are you carry into marriage. Marriage is not the cake. It is the icing to the cake. Don't hang around waiting for marriage before you begin living.

Don't get it twisted. I don't mean to discourage anyone about getting married. I'm single and will get married someday. My emphasis is that marriage is what you make out of it. Don't think you're missing out of life simply because you're yet to marry. So instead of wishing and day dreaming, roll up your sleeves and get to work on everything about yourself. Pursue your goals, achieve something for yourself and attain some level of emotional and financial independence. If marriage is worth anything, it's worth every preparation...