This misrepresentation of love
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Today I want to talk about what I beleive as the misrepresentation of love in Hollywood and the effects of that on society!
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I always like cuddling up with my girlfriend on a Friday night and making some popcorn to watch a good flick. She loves chick flicks and romance movies. I do not mind them. Some of the best movies I have watched are within the genres she loves. ....but as I have watched more and more of these movies.. The more I see the misrepresentation of love in Hollywood. This an be argued that it is influencing society into thinking that love is something much less balanced than what we see in real life. I would like to explain my theory on love and what it represents in a romantic value through my personal history with the emotion known as love. It should be clear for others to see the misrepresentation Hollywood gives to true love a majority of the time, therefore we have a society with a misconstrued version of what it is.
My history with love.
My history with love is (of course I am biased) well versed. I have spent 10 years in relationships with 3 girls through my twenties. So you could say I am somewhat long term with my choices. I tend to have a one track mind in that case. I have experienced love and I am currently in a relationship experiencing love with a wonderful woman. I do not think there are any bounds to how quickly love happens or anything like that but we need to understand the difference between love and infatuation.
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The honeymoon phase.
I see these movies progress through a love story and it realistically goes through a timeline of 2 freaking weeks. In my experience with relationships I believe this is what is considered "The honeymoon phase" Or infatuation. When you really like someone, something in your brain puts them very high. The mixture between mental chemicals mixing and desire will have you up the value of a person in your own eyes. They make you feel good when they are around and you are overcome with nerves. As time passes this uncomfortable excitement begins to fade. You become comfortable with your partner and get through some of the hardships of comfort together. Whether its farting in front of your girlfriend or being comfortable naked, we all have our own personal boundaries that we are afraid to share with others. These walls or this security blanket drops and we begin to mold into one.
What is love, baby don't hurt me!
Once you gain a profound love for someone you understand what it feels like to truly be afraid of loss...but in all honesty this comes with work. LOVE IS NOT EASY. In all of the experience that I have seen in my own personal life you must make sacrifices for the people you love. Sometimes these are small sometimes they are significant. Nonetheless we must understand this going into a relationship. Each person will have to make personal sacrafies. This is a case by case thing and will be different for each relationship. Sometimes movies will show this in a much less intense view. They show one example of sacrifice and BOOM! We are happily ever after. This doesnt not hold up to be true. Love will take more than one sacrifice.
In my experience, love takes compromise. You will have to take a knee sometimes metaphorically and agree to disagree on topics.. or learn to keep your mouth shut when your mad. These sort of things usually arent portrayed in film romance. The idea of compromise is necessary in love and one again this is a personal thing, so it varies case by case on what you will have to compromise.
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In conclusion.
Love takes work. Hard work. It takes compromise and sacrifice. These things do not come easy, and as they say, nothing great ever comes easy. I believe that working through hardships and making compromises is what strengthens relationships. These sort of things might not be easy, but definitely are needed for maintaining love in my experience. The work you put in together in turn helps bring you closer to your partner. This helps to create a stronger bond. That is what makes love worth it in reality. That is what seals us together as one. We work hard together to maintain our relationship in the proper way, and keep it healthy by communicating on these things, in turn our relationship strengthens.
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