Yip! Your PARENTS are PEOPLE too!!! ;)

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“Just the other day my father told me about what amazing SEX him and my mother had - OMG gross!!!”

– Well, I have probably heard this statement or something extremely similar at least a thousand times in my life! And I just don't understand it... what is WITH people that react like this to the intimate lives of their parents?! Did they not attend school and learn about the birds and the bees, or did they just develop early alzheimers? How do they think that THEY came to be in the first place?!

Could somebody PLEASE explain to me what is SO disgusting, mortifying and humiliating about hearing your parents discuss their intimacy?! To be honest, I would think that in this day and age where divorce is so prevalent and marriage is simply a piece of paper, you would think there would be a level of gratitude that your folks are actually even intimate in the first bloody place!

Like I said, I have honestly never understood why people get so “grossed out” by this… and to be quite frank I am thankful that I don't share the same view point as a great portion of people.

Personally - I prefer, to look at my parents and remember how once upon a time, they didn’t have any children… they were young, free and single – just as we all were (or are). They went through all the same life stages, experimented, experienced and had fun!

Here's an example... a photo of my mom and dad. My dad had just finished a marathon run and apparently they had an argument because my mom hadnt caught his time accurately... or something like that (i forget the details) - point being... oh look! They are human beings... not just "parents"! lol :)

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Recently, my mom shared a photograph with me. It was one of a very dear friend of hers. They were the best of friends in their mid-twenties, lost touch and have recently reunited. She showed me a pic of her friend as “she remembers her” in her younger years, so to speak and then one of her now. She made a passing comment to me about how the older one gets, the more fleeting life becomes.

This was said in response to me moaning and groaning about how utterly exhausted I have been feeling this week.

I absorbed the comment and thought too, about the photos she shared with me, and it made me think of all of them when they were younger. How wonderful it would have been to “meet” my parents when they were in their mid-twenties or early thirties…

See... my mom was also a "littley" once upon a time... she didn't just arrive on earth via UFO as a 20 something, ready to start chopping vegetables...

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and oh look... my dad was in the army, he didn't just get dropped on to earth one day by a parent delivering stork... (I think this was an army photo... and if that was not an army uniform, then he had a really odd sense of dress style.. lol

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For some reason, people seem to forget that their parents are living, breathing, feeling beings too. Just like them. No, they did not suddenly appear the day you were born, to clean your nappies, make your school lunches and give you spending cash. They were toddlers, tweens and teens too.

THEY. ARE. PEOPLE. – Not just parents!

It really does surprise me that so many young “parents” (my generation) seem to forget this fact. I would have thought that through parenting your own child, whilst being acutely aware that you too still have a character, soul, desires, goals, dreams etc. would remind you that your parents are no different in that respect…

I am a parent, and I am VERY much still alive and kicking with plenty of desires (ok, ok, leave it there folks), dreams, goals and aspirations.

So... the next time we engage with our folks, let's try not to forget all of this, shall we ;)

I mean, look at my mom - she was so naughty, she even made the newspaper.... (the apple clearly didn't fall very far from the tree... haha)

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Until next time...
Much Love from Cape Town, South Africa xxx

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This is such a healthy, needed perspective on parents. Thank you for writing it. Loved this line, especially. ;)

I am a parent, and I am VERY much still alive and kicking with plenty of desires (ok, ok, leave it there folks), dreams, goals and aspirations.

This post had a lot of wisdom packed in it....well said well said..🙌

Both of your parents are incredibly photogenic. They look almost like professional models in their adult pics.

And yes, I'm grossed out when my mom tells me about her sex life. But I also feel that way when other people give me unsolicited details about their sex lives.

I'm extremely sorry for what I said and did earlier. The only reason for me to apologise is that if your feelings were hurt then I'm terribly terribly SORRY for that. Have a great day ahead. Love you. Banana Boy.🍌🍌🍌🍪🍪🍪.

I accept and appreciate your apology @amarbir. Whats done is done and gone. Lets just leave it at that.

Alright. Have a great day ahead.

This is very true. We tend to view our parents as just our parents and forget that they have a life too outside of the family.

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I agree with you. Youngsters are selfish in general, but it is the lack of life experience also. The older we get, the more we appreciate our parents. And when we appreciate them the most, when we finally understand them and what they truely did for us during their lifetime, they just perish. That’s life. 🤔

I just hope we appreciate them more before it is to late...

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Thank you :)

How poignant! My Mom told me that her & my father "got married for s.e.x."
sigh right before she told me I "wasn't planned".

Being a relatively new parent definitely helped me to put what you said into perspective.

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