Have You Outgrown Your Life?

When you are in the middle of life and you feel like you have lost your sense of direction, or that your path is unclear, this can be a wake-up call to say, "You can't get there if you don't start". The same goes for your spouse.

Feelings of loneliness and desperation, loneliness because you feel like the world has ended, desperation because your spouse doesn't know what they want to do, all come together when your spouse isn't feeling involved in your relationship. They may start to look at their life as if it were a movie. They may see their spouse as a lost soul. They may start to believe that they have lost their identity in their marriage.

Do you feel like you've lost yourself? Do you find yourself drifting from place to place, not knowing where to go? Do you feel like your love for your spouse is fading away? In these difficult times, the answer to "have you outgrown your life?" is a resounding yes. The question is how do we get out of the hole, or what role do we want to dig ourselves out of?

Many people get stuck in a rut and wonder what they can do about it. You may have experienced the same thing. For instance, you could start taking up a hobby or taking a course to get yourself "in the mood" to keep moving forward with your life. Or, you may be looking to a friend or family member to give you a hand.

However, this may be difficult to accomplish in the long term. If you find yourself doing this, you're probably falling into a cycle where you feel like you have to work longer hours to get out of the rut and that the longer you work, the more money you'll make. This may work for some people, but it's not the best idea for most people. You may feel like you need to be "busy" to make money. While the income you earn will help you keep your head above water, the hard work and lack of time can wear on you.

It's true that sometimes, to get out of your rut, you need to take a step back, take a look at your life and figure out what you want to do. If you feel like your love life is going in circles, there may be something you need to change. There may also be something you need to learn about yourself, about life itself, and about relationships.

If you're still willing to take these steps, you will find yourself outgrowing your life and feeling renewed. Your life will have direction, and you won't have to work so hard anymore just to keep your marriage afloat. You can have an important conversation with your spouse and see if they feel the same way.