Is it also important to be a little selfish

in #psychology5 years ago

Being selfish does not mean that you are harming someone, rather it is being about here for your benefit, without hurting anyone. But how ...

You may not agree with this, but just think, selfish does not just mean cheating. Till date, you must have seen those selfish people who fool others for their benefit, cheat.



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But do you know that if one is selfish or self-centered in the right way, then by this we can achieve a lot in our life, that too without cheating anyone, without harming anyone.

To what extent should self-determination be inside us? Do you always keep trying to be good?

If so, then leave this effort today. You will not get anything from this, your troubles will definitely increase, because people around you will take advantage of you, will use you.

Don't be so good

Nancy was a good daughter-in-law, wife and mother. Not everyone was tired of praising him. Before marriage, she was loved by everyone in school and home. There was no dearth of lovers of cool nature Nancy. But, because of not being able to say 'no', she often got upset. Gradually, Nancy began to feel strange emptiness within. She was surrounded by some what like deputation.

Learn to say no

One day Nancy's friend came to meet her. She was a famous industrialist. From Nancy's words she understood where the problem lies. After hearing all the things she said, "Nancy, you are a talented and skilled housewife and always take care of others' happiness. Have you ever seen yourself living it? You do not say no to anybody, that is your only problem. Get out of this circle, learn to say 'not. Live a little the way you wish. "



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She found her friend's words right. For so many years she was destroying all her aspirations under the happiness of others. She decided to live for herself and also learned to say 'no' slowly. Everyone was surprised to see this sudden change in Nancy
. Today she had understood that it is not bad to say yes, but not at the stake of her dreams. To get ahead in life, it is also important to learn the art of saying no.

Recognize your existence

Some people have the habit that they are afraid of negative image and want to maintain positive image in front of everyone, no matter how disturbed they may be inside themselves.

After all, why so much hesitation in saying 'no'? You are not a robot who takes his head on every task. It is not possible for anyone to do everything. After saying yes, it is more harmful to do the work half-heartedly or not.

When you are unable to do perfectly your work, then more image will be damaged. I believe that being bad once is better than becoming bad every time. According to the famous people, "Saying no is an art." Do not join the crowd of people by saying 'yes'. If you do say n'o', you will get a different identity. "So, every person should have the art of saying no when required.

Talk to yourself

Why so much tension, so confused? Why is my nature so irritated? What is the reason that sometimes I do not feel like talking to anyone? Sit at leisure and ask yourself questions. Try to find the answer.



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Why you every time? Help them but do not let others take advantage of you. Often in the process of becoming good, no one should feel bad, we also say yes to many such things that cause our own harm. This loss can happen in any form, such as time, money, prosperity or family. Such a big price? Think, when life is your own, your will also always be your own.

Look at yourself

Remove this virtual eyeglasses. Make a habit of seeing the world with your eyes. Do not make someone else's opinion your opinion. It is not necessary that what is wrong for the other is also wrong for you. The decision must be based on your experience. Your experience may be different from that of the person in front.

Eat healthy and nutritious, do exercise, and do everything that makes your mind and body feel good. Do not ignore your needs, It shows your lack of love towards yourself. Taking care of yourself and your body means not being selfish at all. Take some time for yourself out of 24 hours daily.




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