When we encounter the thing called pain, we get a different perspective to the thing called life. I realized that the human mind offers us two things as coping mechanism to pain in my own understanding:

• The shell mechanism
• The indifferent mechanism

I know this might not be how psychologists might view it, but this is not a copy and paste article, it is drawn from reading up and summing things according to my own understanding.
The thing about pain is that most times, it is not the actual thing that causes the pain that makes it linger, it is the thought of whether or not will we ever be happy.

Life consists of three phases from my observation;

• The neutral phase
• The happy phase
• The sad phase

The shell mechanism

There are individuals (most especially men) who deal with pain internally and shut everyone out. They simply prefer to compartmentalize and put everything into a "box" no matter how bad it is. They are usually the ones who love the most, also they are the ones who get hurt the most because they most often times, are the ones who get taken for granted because most of their life process is internal.

They simply put everything in a corner, losing how to communicate effectively with others. They get to a point where they can't 'release' that pain and the worse part is such people tend to exhibit suicidal tendencies because they cannot share their burden and carry it all alone. Statistics have proven that men are more likely to commit suicide than women because men are victims of the shell mechanism.

If we even delve deeper, when we see people who rely on other gadgets for comfort, we discover that they are often times people who are unhappy deep down and rely on those things to try and relieve tension.

The indifferent phase

The people in the category have simply gone through so much pain that they neither care about the pain nor people in general. These kind of people are often confused with snobs, but maybe this is a valid reason why some people become snobs.

Deep down, they care about things, outwardly, they project something different. Their level of insensitivity is proportional to the amount of pain they have received in their lifetime.

Although, the indifferent people often become loud in the sense that they say their mind without caring, they can even tell someone who hurt them to go away depending on variations in personality. The problem is not that they don't care, but they don't know how to express it.

NOTE: This is not a professional guide, it is my own personal understanding of the subject drawn from years of research.

Life is not a straight road, it consists of so many bends. The bends are the sad and trying moments which sometimes overshadows the straight or happy road. So many people have committed suicide just because of the mindset that they believe they will never locate the straight road again.

The best people, sweetest relationships, greatest friendships, toughest minds and so on have passed through their rough patch in life. The thing is; it is never fixed if and when the bends will lead back to the straight road, that is why so many people can't simply hold on.

The most dangerous accidents usually occur around bends which is why when we go around bends in life, we slow down and horn. Similarly, in relationships and other things, when those we care about go around bends, we should simply be emphatic (slow down) and show real care (horn) lest the person crashes around the bend and we or the relationships crash with it before we get back to the straight road.

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