Steemit Engagement Challenge S12W4 | Decide, act and release

  
On this note, I would like to invite @muzack1 @marianaceleste and @sumayaorin to show us their views on this crucial topic.

What does forgiveness mean to you?

I remember someone said, "Forgiveness is the fragrance that a flower leaves in the hands who plucked it".

Therefore, if we learn to apologize and forgive, it will ultimately be for our benefit. Forgiveness means that if someone commits any kind of crime against us, we should calm down the anger in our minds. We can connect this with our ability, which means power, and strength, the forgiveness means tolerance.

It is said, that forgiveness is the ornament of the brave and the root of all penances. Forgiveness is the virtue of incapable people and the ornament of capable people.

There is a set rule of asking for forgiveness in every worship process. We commit mistakes knowingly or unknowingly but if we include forgiveness in our prayer, then whenever we commit any mistake, we should immediately ask for forgiveness.

In your childhood, do you remember your parents forgiving you for any mischief? Tell us about it.

I did a lot of mischief in my childhood. I haven't left anything out that doesn't result in some mischief or the other. My impulse control wasn't so good, but one incident stands above the rest.

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When I was eight years old, my mother was not at home and my father had gone to work. I brought several buckets of water from the bathroom and poured the water into the sitting room. When there was enough water on the floor tiles. I wanted to convert it into a swimming pool but when it didn't, I brought a pillow from the bedroom and placed it under my head in the water and kept sliding across the room like I was doing backstroke.

By the time my mother returned the entire room and pillow had been destroyed. I squeezed the entire pillow on the sofa and started spreading the sofa in all directions. The sofa and all the furniture around it were completely destroyed, so you can understand what happened to me. I apologized but this was not my last mischief.

Do you consider yourself to be a grudging person?

A human being has both virtues and vices. Bad habits can be overcome through self-discipline and practice. And life can be lived with good habits. The person who develops the feeling of forgiveness becomes successful.

Everyone makes mistakes and everyone has to repent later. If we make mistakes, we should also know how to apologize. And one must also have the courage to forgive the mistakes of others.

To ask for forgiveness one has to muster courage and only a courageous person can forgive. When a person forgives someone, he cannot change the past. But by doing so he can improve the future.

Now the question is that even if someone violates the limits of mistakes, he should still be forgiven. If someone considers your sense of forgiveness as a weakness and makes mistakes again and again. So it becomes necessary to punish him. Especially when not only you but the society also has to suffer the consequences of his mistakes.

So, I consider myself as who never hesitates to ask for forgiveness or forgive others but if someone crosses his limits or goes overboard, takes what he deserves.

Tell us a brief story or anecdote, where it was your turn to ask for forgiveness or, on the contrary, where you were asked for forgiveness.

We all commit mistakes and I am no exception. I have committed mistakes in my childhood and at work. I remember during my initial job period I often missed a deadline for a report. My boss had warned me several times but since I was not happy in production I overlooked his suggestions.

So after three suggestions he gave me a warning that I would get no annual increment. So I apologized but he asked me to give it in writing. I gave it in writing. I used the words “I’m sorry,” but since I am not happy in production but willing to go into marketing I am committing this mistake I’m sorry for missing the deadline for my reports. I’m sorry if I upset you, but it wasn’t my intention."

Once I handed over my apology it touched my boss, and he asked me to contact HR and he referred my case to the concerned department. the rest is history as I achieved my target with that simple apology letter. Subordination was never my intention, but I can see how my message came across with that apology.

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We must adopt this if we do not want to include ourselves among those two types of fools, those who do not see their actions as crimes and those who do not forgive others even when they accept their mistakes.

Those who have read the Bible, in the words of Lord Jesus, "Father, forgive them; Because they don't know what they are doing."

It is mentioned in the Islamic text Quran Sharif, 'One who is patient and forgives does a courageous act.

Apologizing and forgiving actually benefit us. Asking for or forgiving is a positive initiative. The feeling of forgiveness destroys the feeling of ego from within a person. That was my last corporate mistake and I started following all the rules strictly after that.