NARCISSISM, A MAJOR CAUSE OF RELATIONSHIP ABUSE PART 2

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So I talked about what to watch out for in every relationship you find yourself and also, the characteristics of a narcissist in my previous post
I promised to talk about
-how possible it is to get out from such relationship
-can narcissists change for good?

If eventually you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, please tread carefully if you want to break up with them.
Yeah, it is possible to break up with a narcissist peacefully if you apply wisdom though the percentage success of this is low but still worth a try.

HOW TO BREAK UP WITH A NARCISSIST

1. Please never be direct and ‘honest’ when breaking up with a narcissist. Once a narcissist finds out you want to break up with him/her they become defensive and try to take their revenge out on you (this can be really messy)
2. Your approach is really important. Do not let a narcissist feel they are the cause why you are leaving them. Let the narcissist feel this decision you are taking is what is best for both of you.
3. Never blame a narcissist. A narcissist, when blamed are always defensive and hard to communicate with.
4. If you succeed in breaking up, do not suggest that you should still remain friends because no matter how successful the conversation goes you should still expect a backlash.
   The best decision you can ever make is not to be in a relationship with a narcissist because it is unhealthy and you sure don’t want to go through the stress and emotional hurt.

CAN A NARCISSIST CHANGE FOR GOOD?
Let’s take a look at two types of narcissism
-Grandiose narcissism
-Vulnerable narcissism
(Wink, 1991; Dickinson and Pincus, 2003)

The grandiose narcissist is usually arrogant, envious, exploitative, and entitled. They may become angry and aggressive ( verbally) when there needs are not met.
The vulnerable narcissist is overly self-inhibited and appears modest, but actually has grandiose expectations for themselves and others. When their expectation as well as the failure of others to meet their expectations is not met, it often leads to shame, social withdrawal, anger, and social disappointment

Research has shown that a narcissist can change but cannot be cured. Before a narcissist can change, motivation is needed, he/she must be convinced totally of the change and why it is needed.
Therapy is therefore advised for narcissists who are convinced they need change. Such therapy include schema therapy and cognitive behavior therapy.

Thanks for reading, I hope you learnt a lot.