Love Note To Self, Contributed by @Olawalium
This post is in no way a vain attempt at self-appraisal. This is about how you view yourself. How we view ourselves matters a lot for our self-confidence, and if we are comfortable with who we are, we can be irresistible.
I would encourage each and every one of you all to put how you feel about yourself down, in form of a letter. I don’t need you to say anything bad about yourself. No. This is all about the positive vibe. I want us to see ourselves in a different light. Instead of judging and condemning ourselves all the time, let us focus on the goodness that is still left in us. Let us try to obliterate our mistakes and amplify our strength. If you feel you have so many negatives than the positive, translate it into strength and a learning curve in your love note to yourself.
This love note should not only be limited to how you see yourself now, take a peek into the future too and show us how you would love to feel about yourself. This is why I said it is never a vain attempt for vain self-appraisal.
You cannot feature in the future that you cannot picture.
I noticed most of the time, we focus on what we are not doing right, rather than the things we do right. As much as we try to push ourselves to be better, we still hold on to those things that are inadequate about us, which stiffens the growth of the goodness left in us.
I am doing this first-hand explanation so you can understand how important it is to have a positive feeling about yourself. When you have a positive feeling about yourself, it spreads into everything you do and how you see it view things.
How do you see yourself? What do you feel about yourself? So many people made you lose your sense of worth? You allowed so many people’s opinions of you to shape your thinking, so much that you feel you can’t do things right? Focus on who you know yourself to be and remind yourself about it in a love note. A constant reminder of this helps our confidence and drives us closer to our full potentials.
I read a friend’s post yesterday and she said she speaks her name back to herself when situations look hopeless. She said that is because her name means “Who can win God?”. So this gives her confidence and assurances when she speaks her name back to herself. You can do the same too.
In a world where we always want to compete with each other and compare ourselves, reminding ourselves of who we are and who we can be, would go a long way to build our self-confidence, which will enable us to move in the right direction.
Expect my love note to me in the next post. Get yours ready, so you can post it in the comment section of the next post. Be expressive. Be spontaneous.
Thank you for your time.
My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
My tongue is like a pen of a ready writer.
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.
Having a low self-confidence, can trigger the emergence of shy characters, anxiety while socializing to other impacts that may be able to affect your relationship with social life and your career development. Low self-esteem can even increase your risk of mental health disorders such as depression and bipolar disorder.
The pattern of brain activity was able to provide a picture of one's confidence. In other words, manipulating certain brain activities, can increase the level of confidence you have.
The power of others as an opportunity to develop themselves
When you see the power of others, you get used to giving a reaction like, "Wow! Public speaking skills are better than my ability. "Without you knowing, you often compare the power of someone with the weakness you have. Giving these reactions over and over again then actually train your brain to work with such patterns, until you slowly start not realizing the other abilities you have. Let's value this condition from another point of view. Calm the mind, set your emotions every time this moment comes. Rather than looking at it from the opposite side, it would be better if you see it as an opportunity that you should further develop yourself on that ability.
Analyzing feelings of discomfort may be unpleasant, but be aware of the times when you feel uncomfortable to know the cause, without you realizing it can increase your confidence level. By organizing your thoughts, feelings and actions when you feel the discomfort, you can identify the cause of your unbelief. You can start a quest for this cause with questions like: When did you know you did a good job? What to do so that you feel appreciated, loved, and happy? Do conditions like some of the above questions ever occur in your life?.
Do not shape your feelings based on how you are treated. Caring for what others think of you is good, but it can end badly when you judge yourself from the minds of these people. In dealing with this condition, you can first instill in yourself if you have indeed given the best attitude in treating others and make sure your goals are good when treating them. The rest is their right and beyond your responsibility. So it is not an obligation for you to think about especially worrying.
After that, whenever you begin to feel uncomfortable with another's judgment of yourself, cultivate in you that no one knows you better than yourself. Once you know what triggers your self-esteem, even how you should train your brain to be confident and react to all those triggers, do not forget to smile! This simple action can also trigger your confidence and maybe even others who see it.
Thanks for your contribution @jamalgayoni
We are who we are. We are a collection of decisions and actions from our lives. And we can become something else, depending on our decisions and actions going forward. What others see is their problem, not yours. Especially if what they see is something beyond your control.
Very detailed and nice, and this did it for me:
Yes, caring for what people say means we are open to learning and should never eat so deep into us that we lose every sense of appreciation for who we are. No one is perfect and we should always seek to learn, and we should feel good about the experiences those lessons are giving us. We need to know that we will make mistakes, but we should always strive to be better. When some make mistakes, they feel they can never amount to anything, because all they see is their mistakes, but when they see the good parts about themselves, then they can have the strength to correct those mistakes and gain valuable experiences from them.
Thanks as always. Good one. :)
Did you know that You cannot control who will like you, who will vilify you, who will speak kindly of you, who will judge you, who will love you, who will treat you unfairly, who will support you, who will spread lies about you, or who will be your biggest fan. We literally cannot control how any other person is going to feel, think, or treat us. When we come to recognize that as an actual fact, we can turn our focus to the only thing in this life that we actually can control, and that is how we feel about ourselves.
Thanks for sharing @olawalium and @communitycoin
This is a quote I wish I’d heard more of when I was little. It’s reassuring and hopeful for all those who aren’t the same as everyone else.
It is a reminder for all of us, to remember what we have that is good, useful and helpful, and to not worry about what other people see or think.
One of the things over which we have absolutely no control is what others think of us. Trying to change their mind, that is a fool’s errand at best.
Instead, we need to have the strength to ignore the haters and remember that our value is based on who we are on the inside, and not based on what others think of us.
Thanks for sharing @communitycoin, and thanks @olawalium for this great epic, really enjoying every minute with you guys, keep it up.
Absolutely. We need to remember that our value is based on who we are on the inside, and it is indeed a fool's errand to try to fit into what people think of us.
Thank you so much for your kind words. Really appreciate it a lot.
Anytime bro.
Self-perception is very vital. A quote by Wilhelm Reich reflects my opinion on this matter
“You differ from a great man in only one respect: the great man was once a very little man, but he developed one important quality: he recognized the smallness and narrowness of his thoughts and actions. Under the pressure of some task that meant a great deal to him, he learned to see how his smallness, his pettiness endangered his happiness. In other words, a great man knows when and in what way he is a little man. A little man does not know he is little and is afraid to know. He hides his pettiness and narrowness behind illusions of strength and greatness, someone else's strength and greatness. He's proud of his great generals but not of himself. He admires an idea he has not had, not one he has had. The less he understands something, the more firmly he believes in it. And the better he understands an idea, the less he believes in it.”
Did you know that You cannot control who will like you, who will vilify you, who will speak kindly of you, who will judge you, who will love you, who will treat you unfairly, who will support you, who will spread lies about you, or who will be your biggest fan. We literally cannot control how any other person is going to feel, think, or treat us. When we come to recognize that as an actual fact, we can turn our focus to the only thing in this life that we actually can control, and that is how we feel about ourselves.
Thanks for sharing @olawalium and @communitycoin
God bless you. Absolutely. What we can control is our values, our potentials, so we should learn to let go of the things we have no control over. We are to stand out, and not to fit in.
Thanks a lot for that.
I Love You full line (My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease)
Great job sir.....best wishes for You.
Its rear topic you discuss with us because nobody don't discuss about how you view yourself.......
You can view yourself but just let it be a good view
Thank you so much. Yes, we need to view ourselves differently, so we can reach our full potentials, rather than trying to be someone else.
There are always days where you feel like complete crap and see more shortcomings in yourself than you thought imaginable but you can’t help that. The only thing you can do is to have a good night’s rest and feel rejuvenated the next morning and remember that you are capable of no more or less than what you set your mind to. Improving your happiness, self-love, self confidence, self esteem, and self-worth need to be your biggest projects and they only require one mind: your own. I am incredibly excited that I have come to this realization sooner rather than later and I hope that you, too, love yourself enough first before you bring someone else into the equation.
I promise you that the moment you begin loving yourself more, you’ll notice things that you’ve never observed before. You’ll almost instantly have a more positive outlook on life without actually changing anything about yourself but your mindset! With loving yourself comes the willingness to go out of your comfort zone more often, taking better care of yourself, seeing the glass as half full, and just strutting your stuff anywhere and everywhere you go.
The great thing about loving yourself is that it includes being selfish at times where you need to be. You do more things for yourself like treating yourself to better food or new clothes or new shoes. It is important to learn and sincerely understand how imperative it is to be there for yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally before allowing yourself to do those things for someone else. I’m not saying that you can’t do that while you’re in a relationship with someone but it takes some time to have a good balance of it. Loving yourself is so necessary in order to even know what kind of love you deserve in a relationship.
How you carry yourself matters, because that is how people will carry you. How you carry yourself is a huge motivation on its own, to never drop the standard.
Mindset, that is key!. We really don't need to change much, most times we don't have any obvious problem, we just need to view ourselves differently, so our confidence can grow and we can reach our full potentials.
Thanks a lot for this detailed comment. Really good.
The way you call yourself is way people would call you
The way you look down 👇 on yourself is how people would look down 👇 to you
Don't View yourself as someone who can't do it or someone who can't make it, you are not different from those at the top and if you view good things about yourself, the sky would be your beginning
I love this. How you carry yourself is a pointer to how people will carry you. See yourself in a positive light, and everyone will follow suit.
Thanks a lot bro.
Looking and judging ourself all the time help us to do a lot of correction. No one is perfect, still everyone try to be be better.....evaluating the wrong things, help us not to repeat the mistakes time and again....so for my belief, one need to keep doing that. Looking at the correct things that we are doing, help is sharing the experience with other so that they can get better. Experience speaks a lot
Yes, that was why i mentioned in the post that, we can turn our shortcomings into strength. I made mention no one is perfect, and we should stop focusing on only the wrong things we are doing wrong and see the right things we are doing, so we can view mistakes as a lesson, rather than beat ourselves up about it. Simple.
means we are on the same page buddy..... :)
Absolutely. :)