Why Are We Sometimes Mean to Those Who Are Nice to Us?
Hello, Steemians!
One of the most significant cornerstones of social interaction which leads to success is our aptitude to understand people the way we understand ourselves.
How you approach other people and treat them determines a great deal about your life and future. After all, in every work or breakthrough, no one can deny the importance of social interaction.
Social interaction is the torch that ignites the flame of collaboration.
But a lot of people find it difficult to connect with other people from a social standpoint. In today’s blog post, I want to talk about people who may be incidentally rude to other people.
This is a dangerous characteristic that can ruin both your reputation and your opportunities.
If you have ever felt the impulse to hurt other people for no particular reason or be mean in response to their kindness, then you are suffering from the mental state of self-hatred.
Self-hatred and lack of confidence can take many forms, and so far as insecurities go, this could be one of the worst manifestations of your inner fears regarding the social world.
When you doubt your own goodness and nobility, it is easy to question the good intentions of other people, because when they are being nice, you feel like that you do not deserve their kindness or attention.
Then you react and your reaction is unreasonable meanness.
To feel ungrateful about the things you have in life is one thing, but to have hatred towards yourself is another.
This hatred might come from many sources; doubting your own good intentions, feeling like you don’t deserve the respect and kindness of other people, thinking that their kindness might be out of a secret plan to take advantage of you, since you cannot even be sure of your own feelings.
Obsessing over intrusive thoughts that make you doubt your own personality is the main cause of self-hatred.
Overthinking leads to doubt about almost everything, so it can be hardly surprising when it ends up with you doubting your own kindheartedness.
To stop self-hatred toward yourself, take it easy with your overthinking tendency. Do not assume every possible strand of outcome. Think about how your actions reflect your personality.
In this case, you will end up seeing that you ARE actually a good person.
In the end, you will be more accepting towards other people and their affections for you.
It is important not to be even accidentally rude or mean to people that you come in contact with if you hope to build lasting connections.
If you want to be rid of that tendency, shake off your intrusive thoughts and have faith in yourself!
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hey buddy,
great post!
you should join my memeday contest on Mondays
You know what they say laughter is good for the soul!
is part of
ok upvoted everyone!
@richatvns I leave message for you on steem chat
I have always thought that the people around us are good, bad, special, it is simply what God uses to strengthen our character. A key to understanding the dynamics of thinking is to relate what we are looking for with what, unexpectedly, we have found The secret of social interaction is, among other factors, located in our capacity for empathy.
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Excellent review @chbartist and you are right, we do not need to greatly attract the attention of people near you, just need to understand ourselves and believe that we can be successful! Sometimes obsessive ideas lead us to a dead end and we shut ourselves in from uncertainty, so it is very important to get rid of all this and firmly go forward!
Greetings @chbartist.
The environment can condition our response form. If we tend to be aggressive people, it can be because we are frequently attacked and we develop forms of defense, generating in the same way aggression as an answer. One way to change the personality is to change the environment. to achieve an environment that allows the person to evaluate their life and generate the necessary changes that will allow them to improve what they have to improve.hi BoSS @chbartist nice to see that you are at RP(82)
:) Be blessed
Self hatred is usually an inter-generational pattern that gets passed down. A new born baby has no self hatred - it's just a ball of love!
it has to LEARN self hatred.
patterns that are learned in our earliest years can be difficult to break let alone understand.
it can be done though, with patience and self compassion.
Saludos estimado @chbartist, algunos de nuestros comportamientos se originan por muchas razones pero hay molestias o mejor dicho dolores que son peores que uno físico y te roban las ilusiones y el agrado por la alegría de vivir…
Self confidence is truly the cornerstone to not only leading an exemplary life but also help others do so which creates a great network for continued progress. Most need to follow the rule to treat others as they wish to be treated!
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I really liked this post, even when I've never have that problem. I try to be always nice. I would like to be part of this community because I would like to give what I know, what I've learned, and I need to grow in some aspects this kind of posts might help me. So, what should I do to join?
I work in customer service and you are 100% correct! Every day I see coworkers going out of their way to help and be nice to strangers. Most of the time they get kindness back. Sometimes, they get hatred back - which never made sense to me. Thanks for the insightful post!
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