Guest post by @crystalll; The Other Lady

It's easy for society to put a mark on ‘the other woman’... i mean the one that we call the home wrecker! It's easy for society to paint her as the evil one who has come only but to destroy a beautiful union or relationship! Now let's take a step backward and think…

If the relationship was so perfect why does the man have to find a companion outside it? Yeah, why? There are three things involved at this point; it's either the man just loves to cheat, his woman is just not his kind anymore(Yeah, some men would say that) or there is something missing in the relationship! When any of this becomes a problem then a loophole is created and any virus can fly in!

There are certain kinds of feeling one shouldn't be able to find in other persons, only their spouse, this creates a kind of bond, one that's different and cannot be found somewhere else or in someone else, I mean what's the need of having that special person when there's nothing special about him/her?

Our partners should feel like home, should be where we find comfort and friendship; that person you want to share your worst days as well as your best days, they should be able to substitute for a friend, sibling, lover and parent, this way you don't get to find a special relationship outside your existing one.

Am not saying you can't have friends you meet up with, or you can't hang out with your siblings or parents; I mean that you can actually talk to your partner about anything and feel good about it! Communication is very important in any kind of relationship, it let's the other person get you more as we are all different persons with different mentalities…

So when there is a third rider in your relationship then believe it or not there is something they bring to the table, probably something you're missing or something you stopped doing and if you both communicated right then maybe you should have trashed the issue, it's not too late though, you're at an advantage and you know better! All You have to do is find out what you're missing and do it like a pro, get him/her back to the roots!

Still, the other woman in the relationship isn't always the bad person, life happens and we should try to understand the situation before randomly passing judgement, am not trying to support a lady who intentionally forces herself into a beautiful relationship for her own selfish reasons, no! Am saying there are times where the other person might be a saviour in a toxic relationship, maybe it was not a beautiful relationship after all and if it was maybe they wrecked it themselves… if you must judge then at least make an effort to know the full story… Till another time I wish us all healthy and beautiful relationships!

@crystalll