Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 41: Navigating Through Conflicts

Greetings my fellow steemians in steem4Nigeria community, I trust you're all doing good and your day was filled with joy and positive vibes. It's my pleasure to take part on this contest which was organized by the official account of my dear community steem4Nigeria with the title Navigating Through Conflicts.

Conflict happens when two or more people or individual get to disagreement and it usually lead to harm, depression and others negativities to humans being. In this contest, I want to share my perspective about conflict. I hope y'all journey with me as I expatiate my view.

To manage anger and stay calm during an argument isn't a easy task to handle especially if the person who claims to be right is the one who wrong. I had experienced this situation several times and I know what it cost to stay humbled.

One situation was last year at my place of work, there's a senior worker who tend to be my friend. We were sent to bought some work materials and the money was given to me, because there were no pockets attached to the clothes I wore, I handed over the money to him.

As we left, I saw him putting the money on his bag but unfortunately, he wasn't aware that the pocket which he put in the money was tear, we later found out that the money was lost immediately we reached the shop of where the material was sold.

This guy shocked me by saying I didn't gave him the money. during this argument, I was able to stay calm during this argument by exercising patient but trust me it wasn't easy for me, the guy was head over heels for all the lies he said but deep down i knew he was trying to shift the consequences to me alone.

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One major problem that bring the argument was lack of listening. When we got back to the company to made the complaint, I was just sincere by saying he misplaced the money but he was shouting and saying I didn't gave him any money. After a couple of minutes when he tried to calm and lower his voice, he came to noted my voice and what I was saying.

You see... it's important to always listen if possible keep quiet and listen attentively before responding to our opponent word even when we're right. Maybe the issue would've solved without arguments and hate speech if he did listen to what I was saying.

It is crucial to listen carefully so as to understand what our opponent is saying. We may be right but because of anger, we becomes wrong in our way of responding. Police aren't too genuine to give people cases but the ability to stay calm and listen attentively to what you say wrong gives them the privilege to head over you.

Understanding someone else feelings gives the privilege to know what hurt and what doesn't hurt someone's. This privilege set the path to understand the conflicted person emotionally.

A conflicted person is always entitled to be sad because such person always feel depressed, stressed and at times cry out. Understanding such a person feelings will allow me to empathize with such person, therefore bringing resolvement to the conflicted person.

I believe that all we need to control our anger during arguments is patient. With patients our anger will surely succumb to us. Patient is the ability to control oneself when tempted, I can confidently say that patient works together with wisdoms because it's the ability to read and understand or endure complicated circumstance, stay calm and not getting upset when arguments arise.

With this point of view, I believe that patient can help controls our anger during an argument, patient is worth to practice.

In conclusion, staying calm during arguments or conflict may be complicated to handle but when we practice patient and try any possibilities way to not get upset even when the circumstances is frustrated, we'll definitely overcome or manage to stay calm during an argument. A conflicted person might look weird to handle but when there's understanding, we'll surely look for a way to resolve he or her problems.