Why Does It Take Longer for People to 'Grow Up' These Days?

17 days ago
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Premise: it takes people longer to develop into autonomous adults capable of independently navigating the world than it used to.

If we accept that as true (I'm not entirely convinced, because what it means to live independently is so radically different over time it's hard to really compare, but generally accept it as a roughly true premise), what might be the causes:

Possible cause: mass schooling is only about 100 years old. Only in the last 60 or so years have we moved to nearly everyone attending, and only in the last 30-40 to nearly everyone attending for the full K-12 experience. We have many times more people starting even earlier, continuing much later with college, attending after school programming, and summer programming. The school day and year have both gotten longer. Schools have become more standardized across the country, and parents are more involved in continuing school activities like homework after hours than ever before. Each generation is more schooled than the one prior, and each is the most schooled generation in history.

Possible cause: technology advances at an exponential rate, making what's valued in the market change rapidly. Schools, by their structure, cannot ever advance as fast, so are always falling farther behind and creating a larger gap between what schools incentivize and what the market incentivizes. While schools still treat "screens" and the internet as playthings good for entertainment and naughty distraction and maybe a few stale lecture videos, the market treats them as the core of everything. Schools don't understand software, the world doesn't understand anything else.

These two causes combined mean kids (16 to as late as 30) emerge fully engaged in the digital world only as a fun social life sort of plaything, totally digitally competent but unable to translate that competency into value since their paradigm for nearly two decades is fixed where software is seen is fun stuff and books and facts and rules seen as valuable stuff. Kids are being taught less relevant things than ever longer than ever more separated from the world than ever, therefore it takes them longer than ever to "grow up", because they need to overcome all that, and then begin the process that should have started at adolescence of finding out what they value and how to do it.

If the above is even partially true, the good news is tech is eating school too. You can't shut it down, and more and more kids are tuning out of school and tuning in to software, networks, etc. in a way that can't be contained by barbed wire and truancy officers forever.

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  ·  17 days ago

I should add, I'm very resistant to any claim based on a past is better pretense.

I suppose you could say people today are miles ahead in X,Y, and Z, and don't struggle at all with things people used to, but in areas A,B, and C, things that previously were not a struggle (Getting exercise, etc.) are now something people have to deal with.

Without making any judgements about better/worse on net.

1950's, teens were throwing rocks through old man Jenkin's windows, lighting each other on fire, and stabbing innocent frogs for sport. They are considered well-adjusted. 2017 teens are using Windows (are they?), swiping Tinder, and posting weird frog memes for sport. They are considered badly adjusted.

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  ·  17 days ago

This is interesting.

While we are the most educated generation in history, we have regressed much in essential life skills.

Early 20's kids now can barely take care of themselves without help from their parents.

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  ·  17 days ago

Also, lifespan is longer, so it makes more economic sense to prolong the consumption/invest in yourself phase, since you have a longer period to earn it back AND more capital and tools with which to leverage your work. Someone today could probably earn enough in just 25 years of focused work to cover an 80 year life for them and their family if they wanted to. Not possible when lifespans and wealth lower, and had to work as many of your years as you could.