One thing that was strange about living in japan (I didn't realize until I left) was the lack of physical contact. I was shy to begin with so without any physical contact I never made much of an effort either. Now I look back and I feel confused about who my true friends were, especially since people don't always share their true feelings, even with close friends, in order to avoid conflict. Two friends stood out and I can remember distinctly that they were more touchy than typical Japanese people.

Since then I've become much touchier as well. I'm still very sensitive to personal space but I always try to use he hand on the shoulder with anyone who I think won't feel uncomfortable by it because it adds a new dimension to friendships, a feeling of safety and closeness. With my closest friends we regularly give massages and it's totally platonic, which feels really nice.