Fear 🙈😣😱

Fear 😱🙈

Remember, as a child, donated blood from a finger. You've been growing pale since the evening. Mother led you by the arm into the clinic, as they lead the criminal to the scaffold - you were suffering in silence and prepared to accept your end as a man. The doctor smeared your unnamed finger with alcohol, carried the scarifier (this is the needle with which the skin breaks through) and ... everything. You with a grin look at the scarlet drop and on your face the poker face of the winner begins to appear. This is all for what: today I read about the study of psychologist Kurt Gray, which proves that we are not afraid of pain. We are afraid of anticipation of pain. And it changes everything.
One day, Gray came across diaries of 300 people sentenced to death. Estimate the condition of these people - the last court hearing, the man in the robes is banging on the table with a hammer - to sentence to the highest measure! From this moment, a completely different life begins for you, more precisely the preparation for its completion. The tragedy is that you are young, hot blood flows in your veins, there are hundreds of plans and ideas in your head, but the judge's hammer has already danced a funeral dance for you. The condemned are not executed the next morning, no. They are waiting for their turn YEARS. They are sitting on death row, where all the interior and entourage remind you of the last puncture, bullet or electric chair. You spend years, escorting others to the frontal place and waiting for the imminent end - imagine this eternally depressed state of mind. What do you think you would write about? When this question was asked random people, they were sure that the suicide bombers were whining, crying, depressing and howling with horror. But in fact - no. The condemned are not afraid. They enjoy life as if the end of September is in the yard and the last sunny day is slipping towards the sunset before a heavy semi-annual northern winter. They are not as bad as we think.
To increase the sample, Gray decided at the same time to analyze the diaries of people with cancer and other deadly diseases. And at the same time he asked healthy people: "What did you write in your diary if you were diagnosed with cancer?" Now you will not be surprised to learn that the diaries of imaginary patients turned out to be much depressive than the diaries of these patients. In fact, the closer a person was to death, the more notes in his notes with a positive emotional color: happiness, love, inspiration. That is, you understand, when you think that something terrible can happen to you, you are more unhappy than when it really happens. The reason for this is the human psycho-immune system, as Dr. Gray asserts. When something terrible happens to us, she throws a bunch of hormones (the lay people, I do not remember which ones, I'm not a biochemist), which softens the effect of stress. It's like a car spring, which softens a ride on bumps.

That is, it seems to us like:

We think about death, sickness and such rubbish -> it hurts us already (but how painful it will be when it actually happens!) -> we are even more sick, eventually stress, depression, depressed state of mind.

And as a matter of fact:

We think about death, disease and such rubbish -> these thoughts hurt us more than if it really happened

There is a question. WE WRIGHT AT THIS WE THINK ABOUT THIS.
This is the main mathematical secret of positive thinking. This is not a departure from life's problems, not a flight from reality. This is the only known way not to suffer here and now, but to live a full life. It does not work for such tragic matters as death. I remember the excitement before launching one of the projects.

What's the worst thing that could happen to me? I would lose a certain amount of money, time, people would say: "This is a loser who could not run the project." You know, one day something similar happened.
Once I took a chance and launched a project that caused me some excitement. And the project failed.
What did I feel at that moment? It was very unpleasant, sorry for the time, we must close financial obligations, but within a couple of days I accepted this fact as something neutral, I studied the biographies of big uncles, saw that some of them shoot 1 project out of 3, and nothing, they move quietly further. Also, I, then, found new opportunities for myself and quietly implemented them.

The thought of failure is more terrible than failure itself.

Imagine that you need to go to the main tourist street of your city in a rag to beg. In fact, nothing terrible will happen - people will bypass you without looking in the eyes, a couple of people will joke or send them far away, then they will come and take you to a monkey, where you will spend the night with interesting respected people and go home in the morning . All! The thought of begging is more terrible than begging. The idea of ​​poverty is worse than poverty itself. The thought of loneliness is more terrible than loneliness itself. In our head, a drama unfolds, which is more zhadrene than life. So, in our power to change the script, remove some scenery and make of the tragedy something like "The Wolf from Wall Street." Or "50 shades of gray", here for your taste.
And if so - down with vile defeatist thoughts.
Do what you like and come what may. On the spot, we'll figure it out. What now is it to suffer?
Remember: the idea of ​​repost is more terrible than the repost itself.