Thank you, I am interested in your reply, it gives me some variety in how people perceive such things and I learn from it.

I always wanted to be more open and extroverted

It seems that you worked on that task until it became true for you:)

Why I asked the last question: I am having two friends, which I do know for over 30 years and how they interacted with me was and is always quite different.

One told me once: "Well, you know what: you let yourself easily be tossed." The other one told me: "You are fearless, always pretty good at defending yourself."

Did they actually talk about me? For both gave this statement and it appeared that what they sensed is somehow solidly anchored in me. Which obviously it is not. It depends.

I remember this vividly because the two statements are such strong opposites.

Do you have any experience of this kind?