It's like suddenly, you realize you get to be okay
Every time I went through a breakup, or got my heart broken by some girl, the point I always got better is when I realize I get to do my own shit at great convenience.
It was like, "Hey, I don't need to pause my video game to reply her texts anymore."
"I don't need to keep paying attention to my phone during this movie to reply her text."
"I don't need to worry about other dudes hitting on her while she's out partying."
"I don't need to see her stupid ass friends anymore!"
"I get to spend more time with my friends!"
"Wow, it feels great to talk to somebody and not have to watch my words for fear of pissing them off over some minor bullshit."
"I saved so fucking much money!"
"I get to party and talk to any girl I want!"
"I get to take long, uninterrupted naps."
Among others. It makes me feel I get to be okay.
So that's the thing: Never underestimate the power of convenience and how the little things can make you so much happier despite losing someone you were once in love with.
Breakups hurt, but you will be fine.
There may be a void once he or she leaves, but it's not like it's the end of the world; it's not like some new, majestic being need to come in and save you; it's not like it has to take a long time to heal.
Just fill that void with a bunch of cool shit.
I find that many people buy too much into the idea of required pain, where they feel that they must be in pain or suffering just because others are doing the same; because they believe it's the way life works. They don't open their eyes to the tiny, little things that actually help.
Instead, it should be the other around: You get to feel whatever you want because you control your own life.
So wake up and bask in the little conveniences. These little things will add up to for a better life. You get to be okay.
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I love your positive mindset. Often we are hard and critical for ourselves when we experience failure or setbacks. But we must then be an inner ally of ourselves instead of an inner enemy. The inner critic is nothing more than a strategy of our safety instinct, which wants to protect you from pain, shame, disappointment, failure or loss of face. It's just the way we are programmed.
It is important to know that you are not that critical voice. It's your thoughts. Conduct a dialogue with your inner critic, kindly thank the insights and use them to make the best choice for you at that moment.