To properly promote boys - the role of the father

Are you doing the boys wrong when you say they need special support? Are not guys as good as girls? Of course they are. But at the same time they "tick" differently. This is not a gut feeling, it can be proven. How come that boys need special treatment? You could say that it starts with the genes and the education ends - with plenty of space in between.

The education system is merciless, especially when it comes to statistics. It has been proven that boys are enrolled more often than girls later. Also, the rate of "sitting lead" is higher in the boys than in the girls, and indeed. Almost twice as many boys make an "extra round" during their school career; the A-levels make up just 44 percent of young men, the rest are women. So what can fathers do to support the boys?

Is later really worse?

Of course, support for boys starts even before school enrollment, the same goes for girls. Nevertheless, the time of enrollment is an important event, which co-decisions on the subsequent career. False paternal ambition can have an effect. Studies show that in many cases it is not wrong to give up one more year of schooling. Boys, who are later enrolled, often have a much better rate when it comes to the repetitions of school years.

Unfortunately, the decision to give up school for another year is not limited to the parents or the educational staff. The federal states handle the practice differently, but often a medical certificate is required in order to obtain a later enrollment can.

Guys are different - and treated differently

A more than daring thesis that makes many pedagogues's hair stand on end. Only right when she comes from a father. This is only understandable, because what teacher would like to be accused of favoring girls? Nevertheless, a look at the reality must be allowed. The fact is that, especially in the first four years of school, children are taught in the vast majority by female teachers. They in turn respond differently to boys than to girls. Of course, this is neither a deliberate and intentional process, nor are boys to be discriminated against. And, moreover, it does not apply to all female teachers alike. In addition, the boys themselves contribute to their being perceived differently by the predominantly female teachers.

• Boys are more often loud and dominant dar.

• They are more likely than girls to disturb the lesson and thereby present themselves.

• Being smart is not so important to boys. Surveys showed that later wealth was much more important to them.

It should be noted that social ideas of masculine behavior contribute to the sometimes problematic views of boys. For fathers, that means teaching the son that not every picture of the man is right.

Seek solutions, not guilty

The fact that boys are different and sometimes treated differently, may be correct, but a solution does not provide this finding of course. It's not just about promoting boys in school, but beyond. Nevertheless, for example, a look at the skills in the individual subjects is more than useful. That's why boys usually do worse in spelling than girls do. By the way, the lesser vocabulary is not, which is similar to girls. But girls are more likely to be introduced to books than boys. As early as 2006, research has shown that girls read more often than boys. This increases the comprehension, the achievements in German and, accordingly, in many other subjects.

Promotion outside the school

Boys have a strong urge to move. In the age of high screen presence, however, often remains on the track. For the concentration is too long a stay in front of the PC or TV by the way not exactly conducive.

• Sport is an absolutely appropriate measure to meet the urge to move from boys. As a side effect additional pent-up aggression is reduced.

• Peer pressure is often higher in boys than in girls. There have always been trials of courage, but they are taking on new forms and are sometimes associated with high risk today. Here, too, sport can be an approach.

• No boy would admit it, but not infrequently boys feel at a disadvantage to girls. Especially because girls get along better in school, the feeling in boys is reinforced, as having to score dominant male parts. For fathers, it is important to convey a healthy self-esteem with sons to the opposite sex. It's not about an up or down, but the understanding that both genders have their rights. With all strengths and weaknesses.

Ultimately, it's always about conveying to father as a father that he needs to be clear about what's important to him. That's certainly not that important in the first grade. Nevertheless, the fundamental questions of life emerge earlier than one thinks as a father. Better, you are prepared. Also to the question with the wealth.

Did I forget something? Can you think of any more points?
I´m looking forward to your experiences and additions.

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