- FREE YOURSELF FROM THE PAST
The first step to getting a partner is to free yourself from the past because remembering the past will make you board, depressed, lonely, self centered, worried and hopeless and it will just keep getting worse and worse.
Let's face it, being single after a lot of disappointment while all your friends are happily dating or married is not a panic. You may want love more than anything in the world and it's natural because when God created man and woman, the first thing that God said was "we should be fruitful, multiply and replenish the earth", so every man/woman that comes to the full age of being fruitful, or nature begins to demand for it, it is natural to feel alone or sad if you can't find it, but part of loving yourself is loving spending solo, and finding ways to stay interested and excited about life, this will make you feel even better when that person comes along. Open yourself to new people, always surround yourself with circle of friends and be in the community, the time itself will allow you to get the right person.
If you are miserable by yourself, then you will be too easily swayed by the first person who comes along, don't mistake companionship for love.
Don't give up on yourself, some people give up when they fall in love and someone breaks their heart, when the door of happiness closes, another opens but oftentimes we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us. Never give up, if someone leaves your life that means that means that person does not know your worth.
A mistake is not the end of the world but an opportunity for change, no matter how long or how often you brood or think over the past, you can't change it, so don't spend your time and energy on it. Your future is better than your past and the best partner is coming your way, love comes to those who still hope, although they have been disappointed, to those who still believe, although they have been betrayed, to those who still need to love, although they have been hurt before and to those who have the courage and faith to build trust again.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you cant go well I'm life until you let go of your pasts failures and heartaches, maybe God wants us to meet wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know to be grateful for that gift.
I want you to know that you are beautiful within and without, I want you to know that you are a creature of extra ordinary and uncommon value. Your past or present experiences cannot change the truth about who you are; you are wonderfully and fearfully made! Do not allow anyone to define and confirmed you to mediocrity.
- Define yourself from God's perspective. You are who God says you are, you have what God says you have, and you can do what God says you can do.
Believe these deeply with all your heart, do not allow disappointment or failure define you. Learn to use failure as spring board to greater achievement, I want you to know that you deserve the best man/woman that God has ever made, don't settle for a mediocre relationship, the man/woman that walk out of your life is not good enough for you, you think he's the best man/woman on earth but wait until you meet the person God is bringing in your life.
Believe that you have so much love and value to give and there is a man/woman out there for you, forget about the past, focus on the future, be enthusiastic about your marriage, learn to laugh more, associate with positive people who will lift up your spirit with positive words of encouragement.