New School versus Old School Parenting

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Good day everyone. I believe we all are doing great. Thank you @okere-blessing for this amazing contest topic.

There's this saying that goes like this Spare the rod and spoil the child , Do you think is still valid in this new school parenting?

I'll say yes that it is still valid in this new school parenting. The rod here does not mean the cane we African parents use in correcting our children. There are many ways to discipline a child in this day generation. You might withhold giving them snacks for a week or prevent them from watching their cartoon at their stipulated cartoon time.

Do you think Old school parents were too strict compared to new school parenting?

Yes, Old school parents are too strict with their parenting. They believe a child needs to fear their parents in order to obey everything he or she was told to do. I remember when my mum visited me during the time I put to bed. She started complaining that it's at the stage that I should bring out iron hand so that my children will start being afraid of me in that way they cannot disobey my instructions. I smiled letting her know that this is the exact reason she my mum couldn't pass as my confidant(someone you run to when you need answers and needed guidelines) during my young age.

which one were you raised ? Do you think you were raised right .

I was raised with old school parenting and I know I was raised right but there are some impacts of it in my life that I'm fighting to overcome. I'm a shy person and hardly make friends because my mum don't allow us having friends when we're growing up and others factors.

Do you think we should go back to old school parenting or stick to new school parenting.

I think we should find a balance in between the two. I know of a friend during our young days that her parents are strict too. Friends doesn't visit her neither do they allow her to visit her friends. They think by shielding her from the outside world will make her safe without telling her what the outside looks like. She got admitted into the university, experience what freedom feels like and came back home pregnant.

Growing up, my mum for once didn't lecture me on sex education neither does she explained to me the challenges of being a girl child and how to overcome them. She thought that shutting me inside the house is enough. I figured all this on my own and can you imagine if I had fallen into the hands of corrupt friends.

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The freedom your child will experience outside is best it start from home so that when the child starts developing bad character you can correct them. When they now leave their parents home, they will be well-equipped to handle such freedom. They said charity begins at home.

Bring them closer to you so they can tell you their worries and be guided rather than opening up to a stranger that might mislead them. When you discipline them let them know the reason, what they did wrong and the right way to do it. I sometimes remember at my younger age when I was flogged for an offense that seems right to me without telling me why it's an offense, it only brings about children rebelling against their parents.

Things are changing. New technologies are evolving. Things are not like it used to be in the 1990s when I was born, so the best form of parenting is to switch between old school and new school parenting and finding a balance in between the two.

I still remain my humble self @juli30, enjoy the rest of your day and look forward to my next article 😊, bye

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