The Empaths Survival Guide [Part 1]

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After my last article about the different spiritual paths of empaths and narcissists (and other articles) I got some questions in the comments about empaths. There is also the notion, that many empathic people feel too deeply and can’t set borders. I will show you, that this not the real challenge here and what is really going on, when you are empathing.
If you are an empath, I will give you some tipps on how to survive - especially in times, when the energy feels overwhelming.

How to communicate as an Empath

An empath is a human being, that is feeling energy - or in other words: an energetic sensitive soul. Empaths sense energy via different pathways - seeing, hearing, tasting etc.
Whatever primary sense an empath has developed, the way this sensation is communicated best, is in the international language of emotions.
So if your as an empath sense some stuck energy somewhere, and you want to communicate this, maybe it’s not always appropriate to tell another human being, that you can see „dark clouds around the heart area“.
A better way - that is more accessible to most people - is to say: „I feel the need for protection, because of a fear of being hurt. I don’t know, if it’s you or me, but this is simply what I’m feeling at the moment“
Don’t blame and don’t justify. Simply state, what you are feeling.
You have to find your own words here - especially if you are being asked by another human being for your viewpoint.
I would also recommend, to keep your perceptions for yourself, until you are explicitly asked, otherwise you will run around and tell everyone what you are sensing and giving people a really hard time, because mostly they don’t want to know or simply can’t handle this information at all.
This is crucial and something you have to learn as an empath, if you plan to keep some social interactions intact.

What you are feeling, is what you are healing

I know, it’s hard to go through life and feel every emotion - even from strangers, that just pass by.
First you have to be aware, that approximately 100% of all emotions you are feeling are not yours. They don’t tell you anything about yourself and most importantly, they are not here to teach you a lesson.
This is a very common misunderstanding from the old paradigm. Many empaths were going through their life believing, that every emotion has some kind of message for them, trying to figure out 24/7, what they have to learn from it (and blaming themselves for failing doing so). This is the best way to go crazy. Believe me, I tried it and look how crazy I am! So please, don’t make this mistake too! ;)

The reason, why you couldn’t find the „right lesson“ behind some feelings and they were appearing again and again, even after you had done all the work possible, using every spiritual method under the sun to „heal“ the emotion, is simply, that these emotions were not yours in the first place!
How can you find a lesson behind something, that is not even yours?
This maybe come to a relief, but it even gets better:
You don’t need to learn a lesson to heal!
The act of feeling itself is already the healing.
So what you as an empath are doing so naturally, is healing the world from emotions, simply through feeling them.
It doesn’t matter, whom they belong to or what the reason for the emotion is. Remember, that the healing does not presuppose, that the reason behind it has to be figured out and „solved“ by „doing the right things“ (e.g. therapy, methods etc).
It’s way simpler than that. The act of feeling is already the healing.
You are doing a great job! Thank you, dear Empath!

…but I need to protect myself, right?

There are two old paradigm teachings, that still stick around and which are sold to empaths as the way to survive the emotional overwhelm.
They are well meant, but still tell the empath, that she has to do something else or that she is doing something wrong or has to change…

The first of these well meant, but totally wrong „methods to deal with life“ is called grounding.
Maybe you have heard about it? You tell your best „spiritual friend“, that you feel emotionally and energetically overwhelmed and she replies:
„Oh! I know, what you have to do here! You are ungrounded! You have to ground yourself! Just balance your root chakra and imagine to grow roots into the earth!“
Thank you, dear esoteric friend. Been there, done that.
So let me tell you this: If you are feeling emotions, this is not a sign for you being ungrounded! In fact, you are so freaking „grounded“ in 3D/4D earth, that’s why you feel all these earth bound human energies and emotions in the first place!
Yes, you may go into the woods and hug some tree, and the friendly tree will take away your excess negative emotions and energies - thanks tree! - but remember, that it’s not your missing grounding, that makes you feel this way. There is also no need, to get rid of these feelings. Instead, just do, what you signed up to do, when you decided to come here: just feel the emotion (=healing) for the wellbeing of all.

After your esoteric friends has made sure, that you balanced your root chakra, she may recommend, that you have to set borders and shield yourself. Psychic shields - we all love them, since we saw our first episode of Star Trek as a child. We know, that a nice bubble of white and pink light, with a touch of Archangel Michael, will keep these bad energies away and probably even protect you from incoming phaser attacks, right?
Well, guess what? There are not many phaser attacks happening in the real world and there are also no bad energies, that rot together in a dark alley to conspire to kill you, once you forgot to apply your psychic shield and Archangel spray!

All these „dark energies“ have one simple goal: They want to enter the light! They want to finally go home to the light!
This is their only goal. So these dark energies are like moths, that will seek the light and burn in it - let me say it esoteric correct - become one with the light.
So of course they are after you. Not because of their evil nature of wanting to take you down, but because they want to enter the light through the doorway of your open heart. They are not after you as a person but as the Light that you are. And you are running away, screaming and waving your arms hysterically: „Ahhh! This ugly energy is after meeeee! Wahhh!!!“
Just sit still and let them enter you! There is no need to set borders.
What is draining you, is your constant running away.
Imagine all these lightworkers, who are learning to shine their light and when the dark energies come to enter them, they run away and scream for help. Hilarious!

Ok… You see, there is a lot to say about empaths and how they can survive in a world of emotions and a sea of energy. I didn’t expect this article to become a whole book, but I may follow up with further parts in the near future.

Stay (at)tuned,
Atmos ❤️

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This article is amazing as usual! Recently I had a healing section for body and heart. Past makes me stressed and it is stuck in my body become fear, for sure I ran away from the past so thats why the pain occurs within the body:legs/ shoulders etc hurt. It's a great experience for me :D

Thank you, my dear! 🙏
Yes, past experiences get stored inside the body and clearing them out through whatever modality that is appropriate will certainly make it easier to stand in your true power and light again. Blessings! ❤️

I enjoyed your article, @atmosblack. I would add that you don't necessarily have to have a relationship with one of these darker energies in order to absorb their energy - at least for me. There are residuals 'everywhere'....a simple grocery shop, being online, etc. I used to curse this sensitivity but then I realized that 'yes' as you say we really can't run from it - learn how to transmute it and try not to label it. As far as negative people - there are a lot of wounded people walking around these days, angry people, too! I don't necessarily avoid them, I will try to understand where they are coming from that has made them this way and 'if' they have 'empathy' themselves. If they don't and they are someone with NPD or cluster B personality - it's probably not a good idea for an empath to be around them. So in general, yes not necessary to run from negative people (try to understand them and help if you can) but then there is a different class of people that feel no empathy that you should stay away from if you are an empath. They would see you as food ;)

Absolutely! Staying away from toxic people is something I'd definitely encourage. I would not label that "running away" - it's just your natural instinct when you are standing in your power.
Thank you! Blessings! 🙏

Thank you @atmosblack I had to learn the hard way ;)

I really love this! Especially the concept of "what you are feeling is what you are healing". I am guilty of trying to "figure it all out," most of the time, but I can see where just being ok with it, feeling it and letting it be, is probably the more logical thing to do. :)

Thank you! 🙏
Well, actually it's absolutely not logical 😀
Our logical mind will still try to figure it out and will even try to make a method out of "allowing". This doesn't work out though, because the mind can never allow - simply because it can not feel.
So please don't try to allow things - this will drive you crazy 😀(and with "you" I mean your human mind in this case)
Just feel into the non-logical and non-linear space of beingness.
Don't expect to find anything there. In the vast emptiness of the universe, there is nothing you can find.
Isn't it a miracle, how the whole universe works without any mind involved?
Planets spin, stars explode and everything in the universe does this without any thought at all! How amazing! ❤️

I agree, its not logical, wrong choice of words....lol.
And yes, It truly is a miracle! Yet, overtime the programming to believe the mind is needed becomes so powerful and so hard to break those belief patterns. but, really, all is well :)
Thanks so much for your reply!

I agree with the 'keep your perception for yourself unless you are explicitly asked'.

People really don't like at all to be told what they should do or not. And in the wake of my deeper Awakening I gradually understood that meddling in without being asked somewhat implies my non-acknowledgment of their Freedom of choice. It's like wanting to play the rescuer. But once we finally stop fearing for ourselves we stop fearing for others, and see that we are all just experiencing ourselves, so there is no inner drive anymore to play the rescuer.
I like it how you uncover some 'Spiritual' recommendations.

As I said so often already, I think we should experiment ourselves what helps us best and take advice with a grain of salt. I am not judging any method people use, because it might help them. But that doesn't mean that we a certain schema applies to all equally well.

PS: turned a bit more quiet here lately!

Thank you! 🙏
Yes, it's a bit quiet, but I guess it's because ♨ is only at $2 and today Steemit had all sorts of technical issues - I also couldn't login for hours... I think, we will see more action again soon 😀

Yes, could be. It is quite annoying to see how I invested several SBD in my recent article and it spirals down constantly. So I will surely make huge losses in terms of SBD payout compared to my investment. But well. :)

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@atmosblack Wow! "All these „dark energies“ have one simple goal: They want to enter the light! They want to finally go home to the light!
This is their only goal. So these dark energies are like moths, that will seek the light and burn in it - let me say it esoteric correct - become one with the light." "They are not after you as a person but as the Light that you are. And you are running away, screaming and waving your arms hysterically: „Ahhh! This ugly energy is after meeeee! Wahhh!!!“" "Imagine all these lightworkers, who are learning to shine their light and when the dark energies come to enter them, they run away and scream for help. Hilarious!"

First, I apologize for having quoted a lot of stuff from your article in this comment, but it is LOVELY! And hilarious at the same time. Truly majestic insight. So the work of the lightworker or the empath here is to simply be a witness to what is a passing through them. The empath is like a transistor who catches various frequencies, but a transistor never identifies with a particular frequency it simply allows you to tune in to whichever frequency you choose. I don't know if that is a good analogy. But well, The post helped me in a BIG way understanding what goes on within me at times when I can't make any sense of it. This is worth taking a note of, and remembering. From now on I will never forget "Feeling Is Healing." Thank You! Cheers! P.S. Glad I found you on Steemit, guess I was guided in the direction ;)

Thank you! I'm glad, that this is helping you! Much Love! ❤️

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Amazing article! Interesting point of view, I never heard of that "new paradigm" in this way. Often got the comment that I was too sensitive and had to ground myself/ protect myself but this sheds new light (^^) on the way of dealing with hypersensitivity. Thanks!

Thank you! Yes, the topic of Hyper-sensitive Persons (HSP) is a big one over the recent years. The word empath I use, is a little bit more though. Empaths are mostly HSPs, but not every HSP is also an empath. Empaths not only feel emotions, but also feel/hear/see energy and do this to heal the collective of them. There is also more to say about the new paradigm - I may do this is part 2. Thanks again and all the best! 🙏

I'll definitely wait for part 2!!!

Uhm... so what happens when you let the dark energies in then? Will it be transformed to light? What if the dark energy begins to control u then? Why let it in? What is to stop an empath from being consumed by the darkness? Would it not be like being with a narcissist then? Let empaths be involved with such people then?

Ok I shall read part 2 as well.

What a wonderful comment! Thank you! 🙏
I totally understand your concerns. I do, because I had them too.
Let me tell you - here from the other side - that the Light can't be consumed by Darkness. It's like lightening a candle in a room that was dark for hundreds of years. It will instantly light up - doesn't matter how long it was dark.
The dark energy can't control you because it will be transformed into Light the moment it enters your field.
What happens to the dark energies? Well, what happens to the darkness in the room? The moment the candle lights up, it is like it never existed.

😥😩😖🙁

Maybe only if you have learned to manage the empath ability?

Here is what you need to know: You don't say the words "I allow you to pass!" as the ego. You say it as the Light that you already are. It's your ego that thinks it will need to work to become the light, but you are the Light already! It's not learning how to become the Light. It's a REMEMBERING of your true nature.
All my article only try to make you remember and are not a receipt what to do to "become".
Until you remember, you can of course learn all the ways how to become a better empath - just know, that this is not needed, but totally optional. You may also read my conversation with Victoria below the article about Self-Love from yesterday - this may help you too. Blessings! ❤️

Perhaps then we need to accept being the Light first... Thanks. 👍

Hmmm...I'm not at the point yet where I can allow the dark energies into me. What happens is I absorb them and they circulate in my system and bog me down. So how does an empath get to that state of allowing the dark into their light to set them free?

I totally understand, where you believe to be at the moment.
Please understand, that I'm not saying, that you (or anyone) have to work on yourself, so that you can someday in the future become such a bright light, that you can absorb the darkness.
It's also not the case, that you as a person are becoming the Light.
What I'm saying is, that you are THE Light already.
You're not a personal Light that becomes brighter through working on yourself. When you are saying "I allow you to pass", you are saying this as the Light - as God - and not the person.
What you are saying, is like God saying: "Wait, I'm not Light enough, to allow darkness to pass!".
As I said, I understand you, but we have here a case of a severe identity crisis going on, that results in these kind of misunderstandings. 😀

So all that's really needed is a shift in mindset. Thank you for your reply, it's very enlightening.

Thank you for the great article. You mentioned that we shouldn't run away from people with dark energies. I agree with you. However, I think we should put up some boundaries just to be safe. We never know especially in the beginning as some of them can be people with more complicated issues such as NPD. Being an empath, we can be drawn to them and hurt ourselves due to their toxicity while trying to help them heal.

You're right, but in the end it's about becoming so deeply rooted in your own light, that dark energies get transformed by themselves when they enter your field 50 feet away. I think it's perfectly ok to avoid negative people, just be prepared to let negative feelings enter your light, because these feelings are everywhere and only are there to be cleared out of the collective field. Thank you! 🙏

That is right. I don't mind negative people, in fact I am happy to have them, but I avoid or at least keep a distance from those with serious issues like NPD to protect myself. xx

Thank you for this @atmosblack

Accepting and soaking in the energies you pick up is sort of your duty as an empath. Nature doesn't do anything by mistake, if you feel a feeling that is not yours just live through it and let it go. When I pick up something it means I am supposed to pick it up so I just let myself feel it deep and let it go. The lesson is I should have felt this feeling now.
Thank you for the tips and the love

Absolutely - the issue most empaths have though, is that they think, that what they are feeling is theirs. The moment you take it personally, you are suffering and caught in a loop of trying to get rid of something, that was not yours in the first place. So good to hear, that you are so aware and conscious of what is going on inside of you. Blessings! 🙏

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