Booby Trap II, Contributed By @olawalium.
…continued… from part 1.
Like I was saying a relationship that isn’t making you better, I think it is logical and common sense that either you address it to make your partner know what you want, or you simply walk away because you deserve better.
A lot of times we accept the love we think we deserve. We stay too long in unproductive relationship; blinded by emotions because we feel the person is doing us a favour. TA relationship is a two way street; you give as much as you take. If it is one sided, then you are not in a relationship; you are in a parasitic affair – always taking from you with no substantial addition.
I cannot carry you like a bag of rice and you will hold me like a pinch of salt. It cannot work.
We need to love ourselves more and better; only then can we know we deserve more than we are getting. A lot of people are scared of a broken relationship because they are trying to please their social media in-laws who have been aware of the relationship. A lady once told me that she is sure a lot of people are counting the number of guys she has dated, all because the latest one just left. As sad and truthful as that might sound, I still feel it shouldn’t be a priority to her because such a mindset would make her want to jump into another quickly, do everything to nail the guy down even if she gets maltreated, she would want to endure what she is wired to.
Seriously, we need to love ourselves enough. We shouldn’t just accept the kind of love that gets thrown at us. No one is giving us a deadline or a lifeline. You are not expected or designed to wake up to please people by their expectations of what they feel is right? The question is what is right to you? Yes, mistakes are allowed, but let it be on your own terms but never ignore the voice of reason and advice once in a while.
…to be continued…
Thank you for your time.
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As i said before too....respect your inner feeling and respect yourself enough that no one can easily spoil your inner gut. Relationship is just not a formality of one or two days. However, the new generation people with their fun filled attitude take life more easy way and enjoy living rather than comminting themselves for long lasting relationship.
A true relationship is about living it happilly on each other shoulder by maintianing a good amount of understanding and faith. People should focus on the long teem goal by getting into a long rrlationship rather than incesting and spending the quality times into short term relationship. If you give everything in the short run all the charm and fun of life wont remain for you for rest of the life.
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This is so true. A lot of people want to live only for now. They just want to enjoy the short term rather than plan for the long term. This is just because commitment is an issue to them. A lot of people don't want to commit. Having self-love is very vital as it helps us not to accept any kind of love that comes our way.
Agreed, we are not born to please someone ,we deserve more love than the love which is thrown on us. We are at learning stage so mistakes are always expected but should not repeat.
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Beautiful. Yes, mistakes are expected but they should not be repeated. We should love ourselves enough too. This is why we should make sure we go into any kind of relationship with our heart and also our head; for clarity sake.
That's why its unfair showing all what's going on on you on social medias. Shes right they would count but that should not push her to another relationship
A lot of social media lovers fake them. They fake happiness because they are trying to please people rather than do what is needful. They should do what is important for themselves. We are not made to please other humans.