5 toxic habits that are destroying your happiness

in #rules6 years ago

Believe it or not, you are sabotaging your own happiness every day. You can eliminate from your life with a little effort.

  1. Mind reading.
    Thoughts like, "She must think I'm so stupid," or, "They must be so bored right now," enter most people's heads throughout the day. These thoughts don't necessarily represent truth but are made-up assumptions about what other people are thinking in their minds.
  2. Blaming.
    Making situations or other people the cause of your problems is a quick trip to unhappiness. You will never be able to control awful things that happen to you or the actions of others.
    However, you have control over yourself and your responses. Renowned air force pilot and religious leader Dieter Uchtdorf once said, "The older we get, the more we look back and realize that external circumstances don't really matter or determine our happiness. We determine our happiness." Happiness is a decision, and you can make it.
  3. Being someone you're not.
    The stress of trying to appear like I was someone else was not great for my happiness. Instead, I've tried to liberate myself. "Be yourself" could be the hardest advice of all. Because who is "yourself" anyways? But the more you discover yourself and let that person feel unencumbered, the happier you will be.
  4. Comparing yourself.
    In the age of social media, it's easy to have too many things to compare ourselves to. Our clothes aren't as cute as all the girls on Pinterest, we aren't as well travelled as the people we follow on Instagram and our relationships don't scream, "CUTE!" the way 80% of our Facebook friends' do.
    But there's no way you'll be able to "keep up with the Kardashians." The fact of the matter is achieving those things isn't going to make you happier. However, yearning for them will definitely make you unhappier. Gratitude is the antidote for comparison. List daily all the amazing things about your own life, and you will be one happy person.
  5. Creating false expectations.
    If your friend is the kind of person who doesn't show up on time, you can't get frustrated at him for doing that. If she isn't the kind of person who is considerate and asks about your life, you can't get mad about that either. Expect people to be themselves, and you will be relieved of frustration when they don't act according to your unrealistic expectations.

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