How to backfire, right^^

in #psychology5 years ago (edited)

Lets admit it,

things don’t always go the way you planned, period.

I had a hard phone call with a friend recently. She was reviewing her life and shared with me how “things haven’t turned out like I thought they would.”
In my experience, this sort of comment usually means that the person believes their life should be better than it is, not just different.

Maybe the job isn’t what you thought it would be.
Maybe you’ve not met your financial goals.
Maybe your spouse has been profoundly changed by a radical diagnosis like Parkinson’s.
Maybe you never expected or wanted to move away from where you used to live, much less be where you are now

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I’m a huge control freak and need to have everything planned into the smallest detail. Partly because that’s who I am, but also because my schedule is incredibly intense. And in one way or an other; stuff i do often backfire.

Fitting in this blogging with a 9-5 job isn’t easy. It’s not just taking a picture and then posting something on your blog. There’s so much more to it.
I’ll manage as I’ve learnt to to accept the things I cannot change, have the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference

Whatever the what-if is that vexes you, for the sake of your soul ;

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Don’t keep blaming others, especially your spouse.

Assigning blame to others, especially your spouse can be bitter cancer in your soul and marriage. It’s one thing to identify that someone is responsible for something that has altered your goals or plans, it’s another to let that determination consume your heart and your relationship. That does not end well. The real “blame” can often be a complex web of circumstances and decisions.

Forgiveness is crucial to progress.

Don’t keep blaming yourself.

Maybe you look back and realize that something you did or didn’t do lies at the crux of your disappointment. It can be hard to forgive yourself.
Again, identifying that possibility is different than obsessing over it.

Accept what you cannot change.

A widely known prayer attributed to American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr says, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” It’s hard to change what we can when we haven’t figured out or accepted what can’t be changed. Letting go of what’s over and done is critical to embracing what can be possible in the future.
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Accept the lack of control of most things in our lives.

Much of our disappointments stem from a false sense of control. When we can understand and accept that there is far less under our control than we probably wish, it becomes easier to own what little we can control.

this post WAS made to be somthing else

This week i have hunted, scouted for @qurator coool, new hunt game #qtreasurehunt :D I spent a serious amount of time on this.
As most things in my life, it backfired, do to the fact; i hadent 100% read stated rules for it, i huugely missed the fact of needing a note IN the pictures, to show i made said pix.. which i can accept; but im not ok with editing my work, to get a note inside the picture.. so
As this dident turn out as i planned; ok ok it royaly backfired on me LOL
i switched theme for my post to one about

  • When things dont go as planned, im alright with that, & i winged it Dragon-style ;)
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Fitting in this blogging with a 9-5 job isn’t easy. It’s not just taking a picture and then posting something on your blog. There’s so much more to it.
I’ll manage as I’ve learnt to to accept the things I cannot change, have the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference

Its like i am Reading myself in a mirror !!
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Yeah, we both; know^^
ever tried to get em pix sorted then doing your article; while someone sits and watch you? after 30min- arnt you done yet??
1,5hours later- omg why dont you just post it???
<dragon thinking..

dude, i got a degree in buring stuff down, watch it or il set you on fire & bbq mashmellows while i do so....grrr

Ha ah soo great, thats a fab complimnet :D
aww and a resteem too? woow, must be my bday ;) :D tnx sugar xoxo

I once Made a great 500 word blog with collages, pictures and bam
Gone !
Fuck my time ! I Made a short blog and Yes its posted in 3 seconds.
Or the comment i just received after I asked a question about if the account ( a she ) was at the point where she wanted to be with her blogging ...
I got : YOU DONT GET MY SARCASM !! No i dont such
strange answers ..... blehhhhh go where its dark and leave me alone, new account i just wanted to help But all Will be ok Tomorrow hahahah

I am soooooo ZEN

Jupp done that toooo... i learnt to copy my stuff, as i piss around a lot in them BEFORE i actually do post ;) Yeah, juust think about the amount OF time you spend doing them?? staggering didgets O.o

Omg, cheeses, what a wired responce O.o, yes breath hun, one can get miffed for less, here ;) LOL
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Im not zen ; im Dragon :P

That was really great advice @swedishdragon, we all tend to take on too much on many occasions, or we just have some bad habits, but it is important to recognice what we can and cannot change, have an awesome weekend.

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Hi and pleased to meet you :D
aw i dident actually mean it as advice per say; just my view point to it ;)
Yeah i agree plus we have a tendency to think we can7should be best at every thing.. which then in turn gets the best out of us.. Know your limitation and be ok with them :D
I agree, see/accept what we cant control, make your mind more content and calm :)
Thanks for taking a look & Happy Saturday :D

Thanks @swedishdragon, most of the best inventions ever started by something we didn't intend, just continue being you and stay awesome.

Thanks for those great words of wisdom @swedishdragon, there are a lot of things in life that is just outside of our control and we need to accept that, you deliver awesome advice.


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Thank you hun :D I hope it was some what helpful, at least as a second thought, next time -things go sideways for you .. ;)
Thank you sooo much for the support and resteem :D

Thank you for creating awesome content.

That first photo is sublime!

I had to admit I don't like things go crazy or out of what expect. When that happens I'm going crazy for sure.

I know I have to work on it, but sometimes is really hard.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and greetings from Mexico.

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aww so fantastic to hear, thank you :D

Hm mjaa if you test to take astep back and see, how can i fix this, il asume that can help you, so you dont need to spass out every time things backfires ;) As it is life, stuff dooo happend :P LOL

Sweden waves to mexico :D

i love the bw image

the text is correct, nothing much to comment

aw super, this one i made to do the qurator post ;) i am actually content with it, so thank you so much :D

Such a greta and thoughful post, I can say I feel the same about fitting in blogging with a full time job is not easy, but it something I enjoy away from the job so I plod along

Something different about us is I am like two people at work I can be very planned and organized, but in my private life i mostly go with the flow and always have

you raise some very gopod points, blaming others for your dissapointments is very easy to do and I am sure we all fall into that trpa from time to time I know I used to along with blaming myself, maybe its an age thing but now I look back and see things not so much as dissapointments but steps in my development that lead me to where i am now, sure some thinsg I may not do again knowing what I know now, but at the time knowing what I knew then it seemed a godo choice at the time

aw thank you and soo great to have you here :D
Hm yeah i find it do claim a lot of time to do it but it gives me a looot back to :D

Yes we differ there, work vice i must be yber collected , sorted.... but like 70% of my patience respond well to my persenalety of -wuppsy that did not go as we planned; lets see how this works out...
I do bring home, the same thingi, as i know, most of what i do, do backfire LOL

See, im amased about the concept- blaim others.. I actually thought about it; i never have doen that, even when i was young.... I do agree, i think, it should be a maturety thing but if you listen to people, who now are older, they doo like to blaim others.. still hm???
I find, i learn by my misstakes and alos others misstakes, as long as i can argue for said action; im content and will go by that choice

Always a pleasure to visit :)
I dont mind spending the time to take photos for posts for me that is relaxing as is editing them, and the time I spend commenting and replying is all fun for me I do love the interactions I have with people on here such as this exchange :)

One of my colleagues jokes at me I am two totally people my work persona nd my personal persona, and its like Jeckyll and Hyde, not that I am that bad but its such a contrast between my two personalities

As for mistakes, the worse ones are the ones we do not learn from

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