How to Seduce Libertarian Women and Secure a Black Market Romance
"Nature will unapologetically weed your genes out of existence if you don't take action and learn how to attract women now. Do I have your attention?”—Mystery, The Mystery Method
I hear stories about Libertarian men not being able to catch libertarian women (no they are not Pokémon, and they are not as easy to snag as Rattat—I hope).
These freedom loving men just have insecurities about how to approach women. Their game is rusty or lacking. So they languish away, frustrated as the needs of their heart and body go unmet. Therefore, they air their grievances online, only to compound and intensify their woes.
And sadly, it seems like every time they make comments about their frustration, some anarchist women come out of the woodwork to criticize them.
These women say anarchist men are too hung up on their philosophy, too concerned with bashing Statists, and too concerned with logical mastery. In other words, these women make their fellow anarchist men feel worthless and asexual.
For instance, Lily Goldberg wrote an article titled, "Dear Anarcho-Capitalist Guys: No, We Will Never Sleep With You."
The title is harsh and condescending itself, but what she said is downright cruel:
"The reason more women don’t identify as libertarian? It’s the men who identify as libertarian. Because exceptions like Austin or Judd Weiss notwithstanding, they suck. So much so that asking why more women don’t want to be libertarian is like asking why more women don’t want to be strippers, but worse, because libertarian women aren’t getting paid to get pawed and yapped at by oblivious losers."Their critiques may be right about some libertarian men in some instances, but I do not accept this thinly veiled misandry as legitimate or helpful. Some men simply have never learned how to court women or what techniques to use that will help them find a partner. They are not all "oblivious losers," contrary to what this entitled woman has to say about the matter.
I believe all men have some tricks they can leverage to pickup the coldest anarchist woman, or any woman for that matter. And they don't have to defer to anyone who tries to make them feel ugly or inadequate.
The Truth About Women and Attraction
I have a couple of pieces of dating advice that may be less degrading and help enhance the anarchist man's ego, as well as his pickup skills. He might even get to bed a libertarian vixen. But first, he has to learn the truth about women and attraction.
Like everyone, women are definitely attracted to looks—but that is just the tip of the iceberg. Women have complicated emotional and attraction circuitry. They tend to gravitate toward men with clout, charisma, and social exuberance. They blush at sight of the alpha male.
But don't be fooled. An alpha male is not necessarily the guy with bulging biceps, a Rolex, or three story mansion. In the mind's eye of a woman, a man's perceived social value, style, and gregariousness can trigger her urge to mate with him.
This viewpoint of what women are attracted to has been thoroughly fleshed out by the pickup artist community, especially by Erik Von Markovik and his book The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women into Bed.
He said, “My method is based on female psychology, so it works regardless of your looks or money.”
The Venusian Arts; How I Seduced My Wife
When I was single, before I met my lovely wife, I was really into the pick up artist community. That is when I read Mystery's books.
The essence of his teachings hinges on turning into a strategy game, which is intrinsically appealing to libertarian men's logical, nerdy natures. In other words, he trains men to disguise their thinking maneuvers as emotional maneuvers, which may later transform into actual intimate contact with a woman.
Overall, His book contained valuable insights regarding the Venusian arts (art of lovemaking), dating, and seduction. I will just cover a couple of ideas that I personally employed to seduce, court, and fall in love with the love of my life.
Disqualification as a Potential Suitor
The single most important idea to remember is that women are attracted to what they believe they cannot have (aren't we all), and men they do not perceive as just being after a sexual rendezvous. Therefore, a man should always disqualify himself as a potential suitor.
When I met my future wife in a bookstore, I happened to be reading the Mystery Method. So I decided to practice a few of the moves. This took courage, but it is what men are socially expected to do.
Men can open conversation with a girl in a number of ways, but never say "do you come here often." Try to be more creative and less obvious.
I introduced myself by making a joke about the book she was about to purchase. As soon as I grabbed her attention, I said, "you remind me of my little sister."
This is one easy and elegant way for a man to disqualify himself as a suitor. This technique immediately made my wife wonder about my motives. It also put her off guard, because it telegraphed that I am not only interested in sex. It made her feel at ease and allowed flirtation to occur more natural and spontaneously.
Kino Escalation
The second most important idea that I put into practice was to escalate kino, or to start making physical contact.
Physical contact at any stage of the game can act as a barometer for her level of attraction toward a man. If she allows her "disqualified suitor" to gently touch her shoulder, shake her hand, or provide a delicate touch, it is likely a sign that she enjoys his company. She may even be sexually attracted to him.
When I was gaming my wife, I escalated kino by being silly and clever. I performed a palm reading on her. I asked her to show me her hand and if I could read her "heart lines." This allowed me to gently touch her hand, and it also created ample opportunity for humor and interesting conversation (especially since I had no idea what I was doing).
At the end of this short pickup session, I was feeling confident and tried to kiss her. This failed, but I got her number nonetheless. We went on a date a week later and everything grew organically from that initial contact.
Pick Up Artistry and Possible Predatory Behavior
These techniques will allow a man to pick up women and get sex; but if he is like me, he may want to get discover love and intimacy. My recommendation is that he should use PUA (pickup artist) techniques as a stepping stone to eventual emotional and intimate contact with a woman.
Simply gunning for sex can be interpreted as predatory behavior, but if the woman plays along she is not a necessarily victim, but co-conspirator in the unfolding drama of courtship.
Indeed, some women see the Venusian arts as misogynistic, but I don't see anything wrong with using ones innate talent for game theory to meet, befriend, and make love with beautiful women.
It worked for me, and I am now the happiest I have ever been with a life companion.
Libertarian Women, Black Market Romances, and Emotional Contact
The aforementioned concepts can help libertarian men start gaining skills for picking up any woman in public, but they must tailor their techniques and goals to grabbing the attention of the libertarian minded women they prefer.
The best way for libertarian men to secure these black market romances—or courtships between dissidents—is to use the internet and all online anarchist gateways.
Many women who share the values of freedom are oftentimes active in cyber communities. In this sense, the man should focus his flirtation activities online. However, he should be subtle and not just talk about anti-government activity or conspiracy theories. He should demonstrate his capacity for emotional connection and humor, and inbox women with commentary that is not about her looks or a sexually lewd comment.
Here, he should keep Mystery in mind. Telling a woman she is beautiful or that he wants to have sex with her will only turn her off. Remember: disqualification as a suitor is of primary importance.
This is one area where some criticisms against anarcho-capitalist men are likely true. If they push too hard or convey their personality as insufferable, they will never have an opportunity to put their Venusian art skills into practice. And they certainly will not make amazing lovers.
Libertarian men have a lot of intelligence and power. They should liberate those skills and use them in the service of finding romance, because in the end it is about discovering love and emotional closeness. The hot sex is just a benefit of getting close to a woman who has similar interests and passions.
Don't got to catch em' all—just one.
Mystery Method full Audiobook:
From a Libertarian woman's POV (and I married a Libertarian man after meeting at the Officer's club six years ago, both looking for a way out and into silent anarchism in a Libertarian state with subdued tones of loving anarchy, and now we have two libertarian children.......) - the fact that Libertarian men are so evasive is or was frustrating. Most men must think we strong women of conviction and our own present mind are either married or dead. The general broadly categorized male never explores the possibility by talking about ideas with a seemingly wise lady fox. Those I suspected who may have been were loners, buried in beer foam and uncannily not wanton for conversation. It seems ya fellas lack situational awareness til a good gal hits ya upside the head.
As for us, We met on the premise of like-mindedness. We are both attractive specimens, but now we are taken. So, that's just two fewer free and satient humans to choose from.
Great thoughts here, cdwyatt. I can certainly see the frustration from the standpoint of a libertarian woman. That makes things challenging, for sure. Thanks for commenting.
For sure!! My ONLY advice to Libertarian men: BE BOLD!
Good article, I can say it's pretty much "spot on" from my experiences.
One great additional bit of info for the guy who lacks confidence, and
I have tested this "double blind"... pheromones! Makes a lot of difference,
and you do not need to buy a pheromone additive, your own body makes
more than enough to get the attention (subliminally) of most females.
That could be an article of my own! ;)
F.U.R.R. @sterlinluxan!
Alrighty then! You got my vote!
This is very well written, in addition to being quite an interesting read, but it's also riddled with misleading stereotypes.
This is the first I am hearing of libertarian men having difficulty in talking to or winning the affection of women, of any type.
My guess is that just as many libertarians have difficulty conversing with women as socialists or fascists.
To imply that one's political affiliation has anything at all to do with their ability to attract a mate is seriously fucked up. In fact, that exerpt you shared reads more like propaganda aimed at deterring men from holding, or at least acting on their libertarian views. What better way to influence a man's behaviour than make him believe that his current behaviour is undesirable in the eyes of the opposite sex?
I'm very happy that this method worked out for you and you were able to find what sounds like a very powerful love. I hope to feel that way about someone one day too.
But, simply because you have found love, does not mean that you are qualified in telling every man how to find it for themselves. Nor can you really assume to know what would work for every woman, because I can tell you, they do not all want the same thing at all.
What bothers me about this post, is that the only people who would actually invest any trust in it, are men who genuinely have difficulty picking up women, and if they try and do what you're telling them to the wrong woman, it could result in an embarrassing situation that makes it even more difficult for them to talk to women in future.
You seem incredibly intelligent, and I am positive that you could use your mind to genuinely benefit people. I just do not believe that this is doing that at all.
As I said though, it was interesting, and I do try to see the world from as many perspectives as possible, as it helps me enrich my own understanding of the world and the people in it. For this reason, I will still be following you, and hope that your next post is as interesting to read as this one was.
I don't think @sterlinluxan meant to say ALL libertarians when he wrote this (correct me if I'm wrong). But I know exactly what he means. It's kind of a known 'secret'. Libertarian men aren't all that good at picking up chicks. It's kinda like saying my MN Vikings aren't all that good at winning super bowls.
I have read this book as well and know the concepts and the brain games behind it. The techniques work. Glad to see it worked so well for you Sterlin!
No, I understood that too. It seemed to be implying that 80/90% of them are. However, this only sounds true to me if 80/90% of men in general are shitty at getting women.
In truth, besides the occasional protest, and obviously a lot of online interaction, especially on Steemit, I have not socialised with many libertarian groups in a non-project-driven settings. So, I haven't witnessed libertarian men failing, nor succeeding at picking up women enough to make any type of claim like is made in this post.
But, I think almost 30 years of knowing people and how they like to label themselves and others, and then attribute umbrella personally traits to the entire group, I find it extremely difficult to believe that the statement, "most libertarian men are shit at picking up women," to hold any credence.
While I do not ascribe any labels to myself because I see them for what they are, tools of division, I certainly have a lot of views that do align with what one would typically refer to as "libertarian." Yet, I have never had any difficulty talking to women, or anyone for that matter.
There's fuck all special about me. So, hard to believe that I could be one of the few in this category that happen to be free from this alleged curse. It sounds a lot more rational to me, that this post is based on prejudice, and most likely, far from accurate.
These are great tips. Women want a man of some status
As a childless bachelor, I take comfort in the thought that good values are more important and more readily spread than only being able to make the world a better place via procreation.
I love this - I have LOVED the community of brilliant, handsome, eccentric, intelligent and FUN libertarian men I have been surrounded by for the past 9 years. Sure there are some who have a lack of social graces, but you find those everywhere. I love being seduced by a brilliant mind and loving hands. Courtship should be fun.
(The numbers are just to organize the subjects.)
#1. Everyone has insecurities, but that doesn't make derogatory comments, often about (all) women (without joking), without effect or consequence. Other libertarian men mention how they've never seen such poor behavior in any other dating or libertarian (not focused on dating) sites, only to be labelled "white knights", including after women have confirmed why they are made uncomfortable and remain inactive or just leave. It's like walking into a room of horny teenage boys repeating "hehe, bobs and vagenes", "(libertarian) women are stupid", "fight the power" and "I'm the bestest; I'll shows yous how's you's the worstest". Granted, women are capable or outright ARE off-putting too, but by far the majority are men and is compounded further by the sheer ratio imbalance. They instigate arguments, insult others without provocation, hardly intellectually-inclined while they try to censor others by breaking down their spirits, and unemotional except when pride is at stake. I suspect there are plenty who are only contrarians and would be totalitarians if everyone around them were libertarians, or they have simply been trained by constant political battles to approach life, dating and women in the same manner. Neither a lack of humor nor lack of ego were present to be problems. It's likely that I can't repeat myself enough on this note because of the incurious, ungracious worldview glasses people choose to look through: it's not only libertarian men; the general population is speeding towards anti-social behavior, but it seems amplified in that demographic. Have you peeked into a libertarian dating group on Facebook?
#2. While the title means nothing to me, Lily is not right to blame men for women not identifying as libertarians. You either are or you're not; no sense blaming others. Secondly, I don't see anything you posted where she calls libertarian men ugly, so where are you getting that from? Also, are you implying that there were degrading methods given by that article you linked?
#3. I appreciate that you want to help them. I feel the same and try to find ways to gear people towards connecting and be brave despite the cruelty they see, whether or not they choose to speak against it--sometimes ignoring the bad ones to focus on the good ones is the best course of action--but you are creating false dichotomies and assumptions. Is that not degrading? Men have emotional links as well, preferences and persuasions to their choices in women. Not only that, it's not "disqualification as a potential suitor", but rather "the potential for emotional depth and viewing a woman as more than an object to be used sexually then discarded, which a sister certainly would not be". It's no different than a gal viewing a guy purely as a free meal. Edit: She certainly didn't believe the whole "disqualified potential suitor" after you tried to kiss her.
I hope this wasn't too negative, but it becomes frustrating to see people, who I greatly want to succeed as a libertarian myself, shoot themselves in the foot.