Psychology Says What ?

I’m not sure if it’s just because i focused on this kind of thing a few weeks ago when writing a couple of articles on the subject matter (Social media manipulation tactics & Discourse analysis) that it has been more prominent in my feed or maybe because i spent so much time on it, that it "stands out" when i do see it.... but wow, there is so much of this crap floating around at the moment its astonishing.

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"Psychology says never lie to a girl because she already knows the truth before she asks"

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So to be clear from the get go, NO psychology does not "say" that, as someone who has studied psychology for a good number of years i can tell you that i never sat a class that was based on not lying to girls/women because they already know "the truth". I mean, i would love to see the kind of experiment which was conducted to reach this conclusion, we should replicate it....you know because psychology is a science, based on empirical data and evidence.... lol.

Now, one would assume that this statement is aimed at males... seeing as by the logic put forward in the statement, a girl would have no need to ask anything of another girl since they would "both know the truth" already... right? Is it me or is the argument falling apart already? But it does not explicitly state that so it is an assumption.... based on the logic defined in the statment.

Finally, this paints a picture of girls in a particular light, that is, 1) They ask questions they already know the answer to and 2) That they attain this truth/information/knowledge/data and instead of being open, honest and upfront with what they think they know, girls plan and scheme then revel in the act of watching others squirm.... so toying with others and playing games.

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Conclusion

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The image falsely represents itself as a psychological construct, is a backhanded shot at men and paints girls in a horrible light. There are more than enough flags going up already, but a dive into the comments section only fortifies the perspective. Women agreeing with the imagery and statement, calling men liars and cheats while men return fire calling women psychos and saying they "lie to themselves" etc.

While this image may be an anecdotal incident which occurs to any given degree, it is an immature notion to blanket all women and/or men into particular categories, pinning labels on them and pitting them against one another in the process. Let’s be honest here, this is only perpetuating the problem, not only by endorsing the unhealthy behaviour, but trying to claim that there is psychological scientific evidence backing it.

What this does is give credence to the action and justification for its use in any given situation... that is, influence people in relationships to play games and hurt one another, facilitate conflict and disconnectedness.

What we need to understand is that those who write these kinds of things have most likely been hurt by the very incident they are writing about, therefore there is a bias and the data is quite skewed. While it may be a good way to release emotion for someone who has experienced this themselves, framing it as a psychological construct is dangerous, and can be harmful to those who believe it because it "sounds about right".

Playing games in a relationship is a sure fire way to hurt people and get hurt yourself. Relationships are complex, there is no right or wrong way to do it, from monogamy to open relationships and more... it’s about how honest we are with ourselves and those we claim to care for. How we reach a point of acceptance of one another is being open and honest, then assessing if both parties are willing to engage the others autonomy and congruent self. If the relationship does turn out to be something other than advertised, deal with it head on, sort it out or break it off. Getting involved in a spy vs. spy game will only end in more pain and turmoil for all involved.

There is no benefit from subscribing to the nonsense spewed by "relationship hubs" which try and define the do's and dont's, what is right and wrong, 10 ways to be sure you partner is cheating, etc. Particularly when they are willing to lie about the data they present and have absolutely no concern about the negative impacts of the misinformation they are spreading.