Acceptance is hard when we don't get what we want......
If you find that you have difficulty accepting some situations then you are not alone. It is very much a universal disappointed kind of feeling. If you ask the question why rest assure you are one of many asking the exact same question.
Of course there are numerous examples of peope not accepting certain events. They range from major life changing dramatic happenings to minor things that might just put one out. Accepting such events like death or unfortunate incidents like accidents, robbery or fire are mind boggling hard taking time, fortitude and energy to work through. The little everyday let downs like not getting a job, missing a flight or failing an exam may not take as much energy.
How one copes with any hardship or disappointment depends on one's make-up.
Acceptance has to do with attitude. It is very human to momentarily feel emotionally upset at any bad news or let-downs. What is your normal way of behaving? Do you tend to be optimistic or pessimistic in your self-explanatory style. How you explain what happens has a direct impact on your feelings. If you think I've failed or this is the worse news ever then you are going feel sad, bad or down in the dumps. But, if you think it does not matter or is not the worse thing that can happen then you are likely to feel more upbeat. This more positive self-explanatory style leads individuals to finding solutions, which leads to good outcomes over all.
Getting stuck in the mud hampers acceptance and moving on. How long do you stay stuck is a personal choice.
A technique that helps one accept life's let-downs or disappointments is to see them as tests or lessons that come your way. It is an opportunity to successfully deal with such tests. If you do not do this, expect them to keep happening, only on a much bigger scale. Interesting don't you think? From my perspective I find it a a plausible explanation.
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Really great post. I go with the philosophy of trying to learn from disappointments or difficulties- though this is relatively recent, and i had a mind-shift when nursing my mum at the end of her life. If i could choose to learn and grow as much as possible through that grief, then- i decided- i could certainly stop taking life's smaller difficulties so much to heart. E x
Thank you for your words. Spending time with your mum is both tough and lovely @eveningart.
You're exactly right. It was both tough and lovely. Thanks for posting as it helps me to look at things in a clearer way. E x
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Acceptance can be really hard, but for us to better deal with situations and grow out of it, we need to accept it. Great piece, Angie!
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howdy @angiemitchell! you are so right in this post. Life is a test. I think all of life is pretty much one big test and that's why it never goes exactly the way we think it should. great post!
hey is that a local path down by the beach? that looks fun but the sand would give you a workout!
Thank you and this is one of the many paths going from the walking paths to the beach. The community is very stretched out beside the surf beach. It is hard to visualise @janton.
it sounds hard but I'd like to try! God bless you guys!
When people talk about acceptance they only see the final step - the acceptance itself. But before getting there, there is a long and tough path which includes denial, anger, bargaining with faith, God, luck, etc. It's an extremely difficult way to go and I admire people who dealt with death, loss, abuse or other traumatic experience and somehow manage to get to acceptance.
What I am trying to say is that even if you are angry, desperate or lost, you are still on the road to acceptance. These are only steps to the final point where you feel better and at peace with yourself.