Never in my shoes and the universe owes you nothing

in philosophy •  last month

You aren't special although you are unique but being different doesn't come with special privileges and, the world itself owes you nothing. @lucylin asked a few moments ago why being my best is a theme that runs through so much of what I write, I understnd the question yet, I also kind of find it strange. Why would anyone want to be anything other than the best they can be?

This is not a simple question though as essentially in any given moment with our experience, knowledge, skills and whatever other tools we have available to us, we are all our best. That said, our best in hindsight and reflection might not have been so good after all but, that view is only possible with the additional knowledge that comes through feedback.

And, in any particular case, someone else given the same tools could use them much more effectively than we did. They can judge us harshly but, they also hold information, skill, experience that we did not, at least at the time. If they were truly 'in our shoes', it would be impossible for them to do anything other than we did.

However, this doesn't mean we can't effect what our best is or, what it could be. Us as humans although caged in many ways, have some chance to affect our experience and, we always have a chance to learn from our experience. Some people learn from the experiences of others too or, from any bit of random information they might chance upon. Others however seem to keep beating their heads against walls expecting different results. This in my opinion isn't ignorance, it is arrogance.

People who don't change their behaviours even though what they are doing isn't getting them to where they want to be are acting as if the universe owes them for the action. It does not. The universe is structured and everything is interconnected which means, if what you are doing isn't getting you to where you want to be, it is you who will have to change in order to get there because, the universe can't, it is what it is. Yes, other things might change in the environment to facilitate you getting what you want but, if you aren't acting in a way that connects present with future but expect a narrow viewed result, you are in for disappointment.

People like to scream at all of the ills of the world and proclaim that they know right from wrong but, is the world better for having you in it, is the community you inhabit benefiting from you being a part and when you evaluate yourself, are you over-weighing your positives and under-weighing the negatives tied to your existence - can you really be objective? Is the sum of your life better for this world or harming it? It is perhaps too complicated to really evaluate, at least for a simple human mind such as ours.

Does this mean that we shouldn't consider the possibilities though, that since we can put a definitive number or line on what is good or bad, we shouldn't worry about the way we behave? Should we just seek for our own pleasure and ignore any harms we may cause along the way. And any harms must be ignored by pleasure seekers because for at least most in this world, causing harm to others isn't pleasurable which means to acknowledge it is to reduce pleasure. This then puts one in a position that pleasure must be reduced in order to cause less harm and then, that compromise is seen as harming the pleasure seeking self. Morality.

No, the world doesn't owe you anything but, do you owe the universe? Do you owe the person next to you anything or, are they meaningless? Is their life valueless in your opinion? Or are you putting a value on it every time you offer them a hand, or withdraw a hand? Are you putting a value on every life in the community that supports you every time you do not do your best to increase the collective value of that same group? Are you limiting the value of other's lives by not being the best you can be?

The universe doesn't care what you do, it is too big, too complex and encapsulates all things. The only thing that cares whether you live or die in this world are you, and the people who surround you. Do you owe them your best?

My daughter has some health concerns but, I am glad that someone in this world decided that they would go to school, learn, explore, experiment and do their best in their field of study so that she has a chance in the future to do the same for someone else. Yes, the specialists she sees get paid well for their job but, they aren't forced to do it. Is giving children a chance at living a more valuable life a greater good than sitting down playing an X-box? It is hard to say.

My daughter surviving opens her up to a lifetime of potential suffering that she would not have to face if she hadn't have continued her life. Does this make the doctor's position one of harm or, is it all about potential?

We all have potential, we can all affect our potential through our thoughts, words and actions to either increase it or, reduce it. We can use the physical and mental tools at our disposal in so many ways to not only improve ourselves but, make space so that others have more possibility to improve themselves too. Is there value in this, I don't know as it seems that for the most part, humanity is destructive in nature even though almost all want a better world. What is a better world? One where you get what you want or, one where everyone has more potential available to them?

No one is forcing you to be your best as your experience is your own. Your experience of this world is all you have and all you will ever have. Don't you owe it to yourself to be your best though? What does that mean for you? Maybe right now you are the best you can ever be in your experience. Do you believe that? I don't but, your experience is yours.

I will never be in your shoes and you will never walk a step in mine.

Taraz
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People who don't change their behaviours even though what they are doing isn't getting them to where they want to be are acting as if the universe owes them for the action.

I once listened to several videos by an amazing counsellor, who helps people overcome PTSD and health issues, etc by digging in deep and finding out what is really behind it all.

One example he gave was of a woman who had health problems that she told him she had tried so hard to overcome and wanted his help getting rid of. In the end, they both discovered that her health issues WERE getting her exactly what she wanted. She was a single mom who really, really wanted to stay at home raising her child. But when she had to work she could not do that. However her health issues allowed her to receive a disability cheque from the government, and although the income was quite low she mangaged to stay home with her child and to get by.

He had many more examples of things like this. Sometimes we SAY that we want/need a certain thing, BUT we don't really mean it and don't even know that we don't mean it.

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Good to see you Linda.

This gets very interesting don't you think? Actions tend to speak louder than words and they do lead places, not necessarily to where we want or intend but, somewhere.

I think there is often an alignment problem between what we want, what we think is expected from us by others, what we are willing to do etc. Under self-reflection/external help is it possible to recognise and understand enough about ourselves to consolidate all the parts so what we want, need and willing to do are in a straight line toward where we actually want to be? Many tend to carry a lot of baggage that makes streamlining difficult but I do think anyone can make vast improvements to increase the quality of experience.

You have me thinking :)

I find this funny because after surviving Leukemia in a Country where the Cancer mortality rate is more than 80%, I felt rally special. Then I resumed school and started failing (I was very brilliant) and realized that the universe indeed owed me nothing. It took years of Working twice as hard as everyone else to catch up and bounce back.

We are indeed all special or not special at all. Standing out is something we do on our own with effort and no one will teach us how to do it

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We are indeed all special or not special at all. Standing out is something we do on our own with effort and no one will teach us how to do it

It is great when people help us but, we have to learn not to ever expect and be grateful. We also have to take responsibility for our own experience rather than relying on others to provide it all for us.

I will never be in your shoes and you will never walk a step in mine.

This is true because you are a man and I am a woman. We only have to look as far as the # Me To movement to realize the full implementation of:

Should we just seek for our own pleasure and ignore any harms we may cause along the way. And any harms must be ignored by pleasure seekers because for at least most in this world, causing harm to others isn't pleasurable which means to acknowledge it is to reduce pleasure. This then puts one in a position that pleasure must be reduced in order to cause less harm and then, that compromise is seen as harming the pleasure seeking self.

Others however seem to keep beating their heads against walls expecting different results. This in my opinion isn't ignorance, it is arrogance.

That's typical, woman aren't allowed to be arrogant in a man's world.

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We only have to look as far as the # Me To movement to realize the full implementation of:

I don't know enough about this to see the relevance.

That's typical, woman aren't allowed to be arrogant in a man's world.

Perhaps this is dependent on where you live?

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I don't know enough about this to see the relevance.

That's a good sign. You may be among the small percentage of men who don't cheat on their wives.

Perhaps this is dependent on where you live?

I doubt it, in general I don't think men like arrogant women...I guess it also goes to how arrogant. Back in the day working in a predominately male field of die setting I was bad to the bone. What they took as arrogance I took as pride in my accomplishment not only to infiltrate a mans field but to be so utterly awesome at it.

The world is changing where others just expect things to happen for them. How will those who rely on others ever achieve something and be the best. I don't like the mindset of the masses where I live and it is all about the expectation of something for nothing.

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and it is all about the expectation of something for nothing.

I have been warning the companies for the last decade and now they are coming to me and saying things like, ...the young have the wrong attitude to get stuff done.... they want the money but not the workload...

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