A fair bit of my time over the last years has focused on control. I have no desire to control others mind you, I aim to be able to control myself in various capacities. Physiological control so I can use my body well, psychological control so I am able to think well when required and emotional control which is likely the most important of the three to harness.

As good as some feel and tge value some bring, emotions are also cause for most of the pain we experience as they push and pull to attach us to things that are transitory and make us want to have or, don't want to lose. Emotions are the drivers of FUD that stop us from acting well, stop us from accepting, growing and trying things that might result in failure. They are the things that make us care what others think of us.

Without building emotion control, our emotions control us, they are our internal dictator, our personal authority that manipulates us into being a follower without questioning what we are told to do.

Actions based on emotion are rarely clean and, are always selfish as they are a mix of designer chemicals created just for us, a personalized cocktail to maximize our high. This doesn't mean a feel good high, there are many bad trips involved and the more bad experienced, the more likely the next hit will follow the same path. A spiral into addiction.

Based on our emotions we choose whether we eat a salad or a pizza, exercise or watch TV, think about how to improve or how we are victims. This is why I see emotional maturity as the ability to recognise the often subtle but influential voice of emotion and listen to understand its position, not blindly act as if it is correct.

Emotion is a valuable resource and should be taken as an advisor, not a dictator to action. In this way, it can be a driver of physical and mental development rather than an inhibitor of it. It isn't about suppressing or ignoring the voice, it is about being sensitive enough to recognise that the voice of emotion is not the only voice with a say, the voice of reason should be involved in decision-making also.

I have spent a lot if time working on it and I am far from perfecting my position but, I have progressed far enough so fsr to say that the benefits have outweighed an argument I have ever heard as a proponent for unhindered emotional expression.

From my experience, Those who tend to be the most emotional, are the most violent among us if not physically, than psychologically as they will do anything to satisfy the voice of the dictator. Their argument boils down to the same point, it feels good to be free. No matter the harm they cause.

Taraz
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