Hey guys and gals, I have recently seen a video of a young fellow crying on video saying nobody loves him, that it's 2018 and that he's the only one without a girlfriend. At this moment I realized it's not just him, a lot of people feel the same way. But why? Why would you need partners love to feel loved?
Before your partner's love you have to love yourself
Many people make a mistake of thinking they can hate themselves and feel miserable, sad and depressed, and then those thoughts and feelings will miraculously disappear by the feeling of love. Your partner could love you with all his being and do things for you that are out of this world, but as your feelings lie deep down, it will all be for nothing.
Before your partner's love, you have to love yourself, but most importantly you gotta know how to love - Do you KNOW how to love and be loved? is a post by a friend of mine and I suggest reading it with your full concentration.
We were all taught by approval
When we were kids we didn't have limits, fears or doubt. We didn't think about consequences. Sadly as we were growing up and we learned what all of them are - we made ourselves limits. Limits to growth, limits to aiming for the skies as you're taught -"What if you fall from the sky?". And that worm of doubt trained our brains to seek approval from friends, family, teachers, bosses, partners... When a person in your circle says "Go for it, I believe in you." "You are right" We get released from the doubt. Why can't we release ourselves? Why don't we approve ourselves?
This is where we can use that example as a metaphor for a relationship. Why do you need your partner to tell you that you are beautiful, that they are lucky to have you, that you are their everything, that you are loved?
Release YOURSELF from seeking approval, if you want to do something - JUST DO IT!
When you do things that you want to do, without the approval of anyone, you will love life, you will have the power to say no and to say yes. No more maybes, you will be your own person. You will love yourself because other peoples opinions won't have an effect on you. Don't think loving yourself is selfish! You will still love other people and know where to use your bad vibes for making goals happen.
It's not a very long post but I just had to try passing a lesson that I believe is very much needed to some. My fellow Steemers, I have seen lately that you aren't commenting on my posts.
I love to see your comments, your rants, your discussions, your questions and answers, quotes... So I have some questions for you:
Did you ever seek approval?
If yes, why?
If no, why?
I'd love to hear You.
Stay positive, driven and keep spreading those good vibes! 💚 Love from positivity420
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