Hmm - firstly congratulations for putting down and sharing a subject that is obviously very close to you. I would have say that you are generalizing a lot - not all men may feel quite the same way you do and may be comfortable for constructive feedback from a significant other. Also - it depends on the situation. There are a large number of issues where a person (male or female - this is not as gender specific as you think) can be given the time to work their own way through. But a number of issues are toxic - drugs, alcohol, gambling or marriage breakdown as examples. These need immediate intervention - not just when the upset person is finally prepared to address it.
From this blog you have shown a good display of empathy with other readers and it is good to read. Thanks.