He Is A Chipmunk V, Contributed By @olawalium.
…continued… from part 1, part 2, part 3 and part 4.
As I mentioned in the first part of this series, we focus so much on personality in our choice of marriage partner, forgetting the significant role character plays. Character mattes and it counts. We seem to forget that once attraction fades away, we are left with character and that speaks a lot about how things would turn out. If he is selfish and self-centered, his personality cannot redeem the marriage. He will keep causing her pain. Yes, you will like him continuously based on the personality he has sold to you, but he will continuously hurt you as well. It causes a serious battle in your head; clash of the head (what you see is working against what you know).
Based on his personality, if he tells you how amazing you look and you seem to be over the moon because of that, and the next minute he takes all the money you have and spent it selfishly, only at that time will you realize that he gave that compliment just to get money off you. He is a user!
This clash between personality and character has messed a lot of people up. It creates confusion and leads to frustration, if not depression. In situations like that, just walk away, and this is why I said when the guy left this lady, he did her a huge favour and she doesn’t know it yet. The pain she is feeling won’t make her see it just yet.
Who knows why he has joined into another relationship with this other lady. It could be because of money, connection or influence. It could be anything but that is no longer her headache, because his selfishness and self-centeredness will keep hurting her happiness, and definitely, because his character can’t be hidden for so long, he is still going to hurt this new lady. He is still showing the new lady his personality, he is turning up his charm and the character deficiency will soon come to the surface to play. Relationship is not for selfish people. You should be able to think of your spouse as well as yourself. It requires commitment and this is why it is not for babies.
…to be continued…
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How about those that noticed that and still continued?
They know it was not true when they said they love them but they still want them by all means. I think whats matter is learn how to let things go. How to get ride of fake lovers
That guy did wonder to the girl. The girl has now a fresh lease of life..even though the pain and his absence must be hurting her. It is not easy to let the things go after so long.
But she will see and even judge the future she saw the real character of a fake man. It willnot be easy for her to come up easily....but she will cherish soon........"early the better"
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Good morning @olawalium ,
Character of the person should be lovable, Because it's the character which counts in love. No matter either you have white skin or black.
Skin doesn't determine it like you said. No one is perfect and we should all strive to work on ourselves. Character is important in any kind of relationship.
I agree with you Mr @olawalium !
May be we are thinking from different angles.
Thanks my friend
No, i was only saying the same thing you said. I am only adding to the good point you gave.
I think there is misunderstanding from me.
Thanks friend
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No problem, my friend.