Being afraid of girls and inable to interact with them is one thing. Lack of self-criticism and blaming your inability on others is a different thing entirely.

This week on Monday, Alek Minassion killed 10 people. Eliott Rodger, his role model, did murder even more girls an men three years before that. They both share a common reason. They both were virgins and it was not their fault. It was the women's fault according to them.

It seems they both are honoured on the internet by people, who also have difficulties to interact with girls. I cannot agree with such blighted way of thinking at all. Yet, I see some troubles behind the scenes, which can get uncovered.

Chasing the Girls

As always in the history of multicellular organisms, the male with more qualities necessary for survival is more attractive to the other gender. It is true that this rule doesn't apply to spiders much as they rarely find the mate. But for more developed organisms, it is a law. Even some insects have this rule. In the colonies of one flying insect, there is only one male. When the colony loses the male, the strongest female transforms into the new one.

For humans, the given qualities still do include physical power (V shape of the body). Healthy confidence, money and charisma all help you survive. Surprisly, good-looking also falls into this category.

• Physical power might seem to be attractive only as a result of evolution. It is not quite the right. You still need it, when a robber assaults you or to just gain the respect among males. It affects others unconciously.
• Confidence means you are brave to parley and negotiate your partner a better position in the social hierarchy.
• Money can be exchanged for material things house, car, food, water and more included.
• Charisma is how well the diplomacy goes. Very similar to confidence. You need confidence to take an action and charisma to make negotiation sucess.
• Good-looking measures how well you look after yourself. If you have a single tooth in your mouth, you don't seem to be healthy to live long enough to raise a child with the given girl. A woman seeks a healthy man, who will hold her up, when she's down. Not somebody who looks almost dead.

Certainly, I simplified the matter a lot. For example, power affects differently a girl considering herself alpha female and a girl considering herself less beautiful. But this is a logical list of what makes a guy attractive, and is validated by science.

You can work on all the points. Having worse starting conditions like worse shape of the face or less wealthy parents can create a feel of injustice. But still, you can work yourself up and beat an arrogant richees with charisma easily.

I heard Alek Minassion was staying out of the class making cat sounds and screaming how he fears the girls. This is exactly the example how not to do it. I am sure he brought this on himself and none of his victims had a duty to help him. None of them! They were innocent!

Eliott Rodger was born to a wealthy family. Perhaps, it made him think all possesions can be reached for free. As his family had money, he was given the expensive clothes, a BMW car, good school and so on. He could think that he will have whatever he asks for. But this is not how females work now and in the past. I guess he had a lot of money and was confident of himself. On the other hand, he was spoiled and his charisma was incredibly low. He didn't work on himself either as he thought everything will come to him at no effort. He brought his problems on himself!

Can the Society Help? The Army of the Desperate

There are apparently communities, which do agree with the deeds of both. Fortunately, they are only on the internet and don't attempt any 'revenge' (this is how they justify it). My impression from what I have heard is that they are mostly US (more about this in conclusion).

Society can help. I think the whole educational system needs overhaul, so it is fun and does not stress the people. About girls, there is some hierarchy in every group. We can influence that hierarche and work on ourselves to push us to the top.

Conclusion

I live myself in a family, which lives to some extent according to US standards. When I was younger, I was most of the time playing video games and such. This is probably the reason or co-reason, why I missed some good opportunities. Then, I did some research. And I am sure I only make myself stronger for the future.

Everyone can change to better. Playing video games all day is probably not so interesting for girls, which is what were probably these Americans doing all day along. If you reject to change don't blame others for it. You can shoot yourself to death, but don't kill anyone else, who is innocent in your that!